should i go home and reconcile with my family before easter and go bowling on sunday or should i stay in my dorm and keep my roomate company?
Take your roomate bowling at home with your family....
Show him your pet rabbit and your turtle named speedy.
Maybe go for some ice-cream at the dairy-queen then finish the whole weekend by playing scrabble or clue...I bet you win....
The right thing to do would be to go home for Easter since you always see your roomate - bowling will be there next weekend.
HELL IDE GO HOME IF NOT YOUR JUST CHILLIN
Bowling with the fam!
go bowling with your family and friends..
Thursday, April 2, 2009
I really like this guy but i don
i really like this guy at my surf club and we've been doing lifesaving together for about 2 months now, and it seems that he always wants to be near me coz he always hangs round me and he has been asking me out to lunch whilst on our break of lifesaving and he shouted me a $2 muffin one day :) and yehhh and last night i asked him he would want to come with me to a party and he replied he'd love to and he also asked when i was doing lifesaving again coz he really wants to be down there with me :)
is there some obvious connection or flirting or just like stuff going on, do you think?
advice please :) thank you
i reckon he likes ya
wants ya sexy bod down at bondi some time ;)
<3333
if he doesn't make any effort to contact you or see you or any sort of attention apart from the obvious frequent meeting you guys meet, i guess you shouldn't fall too early,,,wait a lil bit..may be he is just trying to take advantage of the privilege or may be he is also waiting
you cant really tell
time will tell
but just just act normal
nothing obsessive or weird
be yourself and have fun (not that fun! lol)
i think he really likes you. Just relax and have a good time while going out with him.
Seeing as you haven't been in a relationship yet, you should consider this a learning experience and just go with it as far as you can, and understand that this will not be your last man. It should be fairly easy for you to actually get the relationship in motion, just follow his example of flirting and communication, only, womanize it so it wouldn't seem too obvious. Like for example, He says " Like your earrings, they make you look pretty" then sometime lator on in the date you will say " You look pretty fit, do you workout? "
Not the best example, w/e you get the point.
Good-luck, and don't worry about mucking everything up, first relationships are like first jobs, they aren't going to last.
is there some obvious connection or flirting or just like stuff going on, do you think?
advice please :) thank you
i reckon he likes ya
wants ya sexy bod down at bondi some time ;)
<3333
if he doesn't make any effort to contact you or see you or any sort of attention apart from the obvious frequent meeting you guys meet, i guess you shouldn't fall too early,,,wait a lil bit..may be he is just trying to take advantage of the privilege or may be he is also waiting
you cant really tell
time will tell
but just just act normal
nothing obsessive or weird
be yourself and have fun (not that fun! lol)
i think he really likes you. Just relax and have a good time while going out with him.
Seeing as you haven't been in a relationship yet, you should consider this a learning experience and just go with it as far as you can, and understand that this will not be your last man. It should be fairly easy for you to actually get the relationship in motion, just follow his example of flirting and communication, only, womanize it so it wouldn't seem too obvious. Like for example, He says " Like your earrings, they make you look pretty" then sometime lator on in the date you will say " You look pretty fit, do you workout? "
Not the best example, w/e you get the point.
Good-luck, and don't worry about mucking everything up, first relationships are like first jobs, they aren't going to last.
I am goin crazy about this?
i had a dream last night that my dad was molesting me and he has never in real life.
i woke up all scared cuz this has never hppened before (the dream)
what can it mean
Dreams don't really have any meanings, some dreams are just your mind wondering around, maybe you heard something about it and you thought of it in your dreams, I wouldn't worry about it much especially when you said yourself he has never done such a thing, don't pay attention to that dream
pray and hope nothing bad happens
think of it this way
may be you eat a lot and went straight ot bed
may be there wasn't enough air in the room to keep you through the night
just say to the dream that its never going to happen
and just a reminder *dreams can help you avoid what to come it doesn't mean it is going to happen by hook or crook*
just take it as a revelation and avoid it through prayers!
A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world.
-Oscar Wilde
Well, this dream could have happened for a couple of reasons. You might have been sexually abused by your father and the memory has been suppressed until now. Or it could be a unconscious desire you have for your father. Either way, I don't think that dream would just pop up out of nowhere.
Hmmm that's pretty crazy.
I would say that you should talk to your mom about it.
well...a very weird 1.....bt den dat was jus a dream......so i thnk u shud jus chuck it...nd not thnk abt it ;)
i woke up all scared cuz this has never hppened before (the dream)
what can it mean
Dreams don't really have any meanings, some dreams are just your mind wondering around, maybe you heard something about it and you thought of it in your dreams, I wouldn't worry about it much especially when you said yourself he has never done such a thing, don't pay attention to that dream
pray and hope nothing bad happens
think of it this way
may be you eat a lot and went straight ot bed
may be there wasn't enough air in the room to keep you through the night
just say to the dream that its never going to happen
and just a reminder *dreams can help you avoid what to come it doesn't mean it is going to happen by hook or crook*
just take it as a revelation and avoid it through prayers!
A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world.
-Oscar Wilde
Well, this dream could have happened for a couple of reasons. You might have been sexually abused by your father and the memory has been suppressed until now. Or it could be a unconscious desire you have for your father. Either way, I don't think that dream would just pop up out of nowhere.
Hmmm that's pretty crazy.
I would say that you should talk to your mom about it.
well...a very weird 1.....bt den dat was jus a dream......so i thnk u shud jus chuck it...nd not thnk abt it ;)
What is wrong with me? i didnt no them very well...now they are dead from a car accident and im?
there was a big car accident the other day at the end of my road. 3 people died. 1 girl i new but not like very well and then the other 2 im pretty sure iv met but i cant remember. im not sure why but this accident has been bthering me a lot. i havent been sleeping at night and then i come home from school and sleep for hours to make up what i missed.
i have lost 3 other very close people to me in car accidents that last like 4 years or so, could this be y im so stressed??
also i dont have much energy bc i havent been sleeping a ton so i may skip cheer this thursday. i dont want to end up hurt.
i really didnt no the people that well but im for some reason really hurt by it.
whats wrong with me? is it wrong of me to morn for people i didnt no very well??
im 14
Theres nothing wrong with you! Im sorry for your loss and I hope you have had the support you need. Losing one person is bad enough-you lost three.
Of course you were affected by the more recent deaths,you can relate to how devastating it is.
You should talk to someone- a professional. Noone is meant to endure something like this alone and don't think needing help means you're crazy.
Put your healing proccess first.
yes it is normal
you probably have a good heart
it is possible that the memories from the other accident might also cause you to feel for the ppl who have lost their love ones
its normal
you will get over it
just don't panic
pray for the lost ppl
may they R.I.P.....
You should morn for others. Its part of life and growing up. Its very sad of the tradegies people face and this happens daily, hourly and every minute. Try not to be a fatality by using common sense. There are so many sensless deaths every year by kids thinking it will never happen to them. So your 14, close to being in high school. Be carefull with the people you choose to ride with or hang with. Your depressed by what you have seen and your inner self is telling you to wise up this could be you.
i have lost 3 other very close people to me in car accidents that last like 4 years or so, could this be y im so stressed??
also i dont have much energy bc i havent been sleeping a ton so i may skip cheer this thursday. i dont want to end up hurt.
i really didnt no the people that well but im for some reason really hurt by it.
whats wrong with me? is it wrong of me to morn for people i didnt no very well??
im 14
Theres nothing wrong with you! Im sorry for your loss and I hope you have had the support you need. Losing one person is bad enough-you lost three.
Of course you were affected by the more recent deaths,you can relate to how devastating it is.
You should talk to someone- a professional. Noone is meant to endure something like this alone and don't think needing help means you're crazy.
Put your healing proccess first.
yes it is normal
you probably have a good heart
it is possible that the memories from the other accident might also cause you to feel for the ppl who have lost their love ones
its normal
you will get over it
just don't panic
pray for the lost ppl
may they R.I.P.....
You should morn for others. Its part of life and growing up. Its very sad of the tradegies people face and this happens daily, hourly and every minute. Try not to be a fatality by using common sense. There are so many sensless deaths every year by kids thinking it will never happen to them. So your 14, close to being in high school. Be carefull with the people you choose to ride with or hang with. Your depressed by what you have seen and your inner self is telling you to wise up this could be you.
Is it possible to have a relationship where....?
Is it possible to have a relationship where the passion lasts forever, I was just having this discussion w/ my bf, I was recalling something I said when we first met of always wanting to find that partner where the passion lasts into old age. I remember how wonder things were when we first got together, he loved the sight of me naked, we would do more sexually, we kissed in public, held hands, we just couldnt get enough of each other. He said this eventually fades of course, but how do you hold onto this..
listen it depends on the relationship you and your other half have.
Personally, I think it is not. I know after anywhere between 6 months to 5 years, I%26#039;m almost always 100% not interested in spending time with my BF anymore, and just trying to find ways to get rid of him to move on to something %26quot;new and exciting%26quot;.
Having an open relationship helps some... so you both see other people when you want to, so the %26quot;new and exciting%26quot; need gets filled. Then, you%26#039;re more like roommates that share everything than lovers, from that point, usually though.
Don%26#039;t take your partner for granted. Don%26#039;t just sit there watching TV until your 80. Get out and do romantic activities together, and keep up the %26quot;spice%26quot; in your love life. Holding onto passion in a relationship is difficult but manageable if you appreciate your partner and love them more every day.
All you said will retain for few months or years after that they fall with something new if yours is small they need to see the bigger
if yours is hairy they need a shaved like that..
nothing is stable in the world.
i%26#039;ve been with the same woman for 15 years... we have a lot of passion... not much sex... :(
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listen it depends on the relationship you and your other half have.
Personally, I think it is not. I know after anywhere between 6 months to 5 years, I%26#039;m almost always 100% not interested in spending time with my BF anymore, and just trying to find ways to get rid of him to move on to something %26quot;new and exciting%26quot;.
Having an open relationship helps some... so you both see other people when you want to, so the %26quot;new and exciting%26quot; need gets filled. Then, you%26#039;re more like roommates that share everything than lovers, from that point, usually though.
Don%26#039;t take your partner for granted. Don%26#039;t just sit there watching TV until your 80. Get out and do romantic activities together, and keep up the %26quot;spice%26quot; in your love life. Holding onto passion in a relationship is difficult but manageable if you appreciate your partner and love them more every day.
All you said will retain for few months or years after that they fall with something new if yours is small they need to see the bigger
if yours is hairy they need a shaved like that..
nothing is stable in the world.
i%26#039;ve been with the same woman for 15 years... we have a lot of passion... not much sex... :(
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What would you do if..?
What would you do if you got everything you wanted it..?
perfect world, amazing boyfriend - girlfriend..
true friends.. that you can depends on..?
I would ask God if I was in heaven.....
No honestly. I would thank Him for this blessing every day I could enjoy the perfect world I lived in. And when everything was gone, I would thank him for letting me live in this perfect world.
But after thanking Him every day i would enjoy life...celebrate it...live it...
I would go back to the docs the next day and have him check that my meds were not causing me to have unrealistic thoughts and out of this planet dreams followed with blackouts
Pinch myself or ask some one to slug me because I know it couldn't be true.
Nothing and no one is perfect.
what dream world do you live in.....
I would be worried,because that stuff doesn't happen.
i would be happy ! ,, wht elz !
but this doesnt happen to me much
enjoy it while it lasts.
i would consider my self lucky.
i would probably be bored. lol. what is life without struggle and hardship?
perfect world, amazing boyfriend - girlfriend..
true friends.. that you can depends on..?
I would ask God if I was in heaven.....
No honestly. I would thank Him for this blessing every day I could enjoy the perfect world I lived in. And when everything was gone, I would thank him for letting me live in this perfect world.
But after thanking Him every day i would enjoy life...celebrate it...live it...
I would go back to the docs the next day and have him check that my meds were not causing me to have unrealistic thoughts and out of this planet dreams followed with blackouts
Pinch myself or ask some one to slug me because I know it couldn't be true.
Nothing and no one is perfect.
what dream world do you live in.....
I would be worried,because that stuff doesn't happen.
i would be happy ! ,, wht elz !
but this doesnt happen to me much
enjoy it while it lasts.
i would consider my self lucky.
i would probably be bored. lol. what is life without struggle and hardship?
Need big time advice ill give 10pts to best answer?
She denied me back then because she choosed to stay with her abusive bf who hits her and treated her bad and also is a drugi. She lost her v to him at 15. I had not seen her since i was 15 i em now 23. I have a good life , i have a lamborghini, have my own house.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. She used to treat me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and she will be there i'm just going to ignore her and bring my gf is this ok?
If any of you are in Los Angeles hit me up i will invite you!.
if you want to get back with her you could bring your gf if u want but just let her know how you really feel and if she still feels the same way unless she is still going with her druggi bf then u could just talk still.
yea its okay but it sounds like you have big resentments toward her you need to let go of....move on you deserve to be happy
Yea its ok to bring your gf,its clear that she is just not that
in to u.
This sounds like it's gonna be a lot of drama! Go to the party, bring your gf, but keep your head on straight about this other girl. She's been on your mind all this time, she's the one that got away and all that, but you two are *strangers* now from going so long without talking. There's no way to know what she's like now, and might be nothing like you remember her or hope she's like. Be friendly but don't gamble away a good life over her
Well done for doing so well for yourself!
I think that its very hard to leave a relationship where there is abuse and drugs involved and it takes time to rehabilitate.
Its your choice and if you want to go to the party and take your new gf that is your choice BUT you must be ready in-case of confrontation and i think your new gf should know what is going on if she doesn't already as she may be the brunt of your x's anger!
Good luck in your decision!
From my own experience when in a abusive relationship we tend to lose our self we forget who our best friend is, are self esteem is stripped from us so we feel that we're not worthy of having a decent guy. I've been in 3 long term relationships all were unhealthy. I'm 43 and finally I found that someone special I've known him since I was 6yrs old. Look give her some time to find out her her best friend one day she will see that there's more to life then unhappiness. The reason that she treats you bad is probably because she feels that she dosen't deserves you. Hope I was helpful. just be your self
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. She used to treat me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and she will be there i'm just going to ignore her and bring my gf is this ok?
If any of you are in Los Angeles hit me up i will invite you!.
if you want to get back with her you could bring your gf if u want but just let her know how you really feel and if she still feels the same way unless she is still going with her druggi bf then u could just talk still.
yea its okay but it sounds like you have big resentments toward her you need to let go of....move on you deserve to be happy
Yea its ok to bring your gf,its clear that she is just not that
in to u.
This sounds like it's gonna be a lot of drama! Go to the party, bring your gf, but keep your head on straight about this other girl. She's been on your mind all this time, she's the one that got away and all that, but you two are *strangers* now from going so long without talking. There's no way to know what she's like now, and might be nothing like you remember her or hope she's like. Be friendly but don't gamble away a good life over her
Well done for doing so well for yourself!
I think that its very hard to leave a relationship where there is abuse and drugs involved and it takes time to rehabilitate.
Its your choice and if you want to go to the party and take your new gf that is your choice BUT you must be ready in-case of confrontation and i think your new gf should know what is going on if she doesn't already as she may be the brunt of your x's anger!
Good luck in your decision!
From my own experience when in a abusive relationship we tend to lose our self we forget who our best friend is, are self esteem is stripped from us so we feel that we're not worthy of having a decent guy. I've been in 3 long term relationships all were unhealthy. I'm 43 and finally I found that someone special I've known him since I was 6yrs old. Look give her some time to find out her her best friend one day she will see that there's more to life then unhappiness. The reason that she treats you bad is probably because she feels that she dosen't deserves you. Hope I was helpful. just be your self
Would you breed with me?
You know how most people say they want to "bang" or "make love" to someone. What would you say if they wanted to "breed" you.
I would say HELL NO.
and HELL yeah
Well I'd be honored...that's what i'd say because if they want to breed with me they must think I'm top notch for creating pretty or smart babies right? LOL But if you asked me I'd have to say no...My husband would be angry if we bred.
I would "breed" all day if i could but not with you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i would breed all day and night, but not with you cause that would be wierd right?
I would say HELL NO.
and HELL yeah
Well I'd be honored...that's what i'd say because if they want to breed with me they must think I'm top notch for creating pretty or smart babies right? LOL But if you asked me I'd have to say no...My husband would be angry if we bred.
I would "breed" all day if i could but not with you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i would breed all day and night, but not with you cause that would be wierd right?
What would you do in this situation?
You just bought a brand new sports car (two seat belts) it's a really rainy day, and you drive past a bus stop. you see 3 people there. as you get closer, you see -your best friend, who has done huge favors for you in the past(life saving ones). - an elderly lady who as you watch collapses, and needs medical attention - and the hottest girl/guy of your dreams who you know is 'the one' just by looking at them. noone near has a phone etc. who would you offer a ride to? what would you do. be honest.
there are no 'wrong answers' but there is a best answer!
I would ask my best friend to drive the elderly lady to the hospital in your car and I'd wait for the bus with "the one."
Aside from my temptation to suggest coming back and getting the rest, I would help the old lady first.
Your best friend will understand. Your soulmate will find you again, because who wouldn't remember the hero at the bus stop that gazed into your eyes, made you fall madly in love with them, then did the right thing and saved the day?
I know I should offer a ride to the old lady but - I wouldn't. I'd give a ride to my friend. Go out for a coffee and such.
I already have "the one" so I wouldn't have even noticed the other guy
;-)
Well, I think you ask your dream person to please keep an eye on this elderly lady, while you take your BF to go phone for help and return.
Stop the car, render aid to the elderly female and wait for paramedics...no one would be getting a ride from me.
I would drive just the old lady to hospital, and go back after if they were still there i would pick them both up
I would go for my friend. I would call 911 for the lady that collapsed, I wouldn't even try to move her, I could make things worse for her.. The rescue will take care of her in a better way. If there is no phone I would ask my friend to rush in the car and we both would look for a telephone to call the emergency for the lady. The guy, well I do not care for guys for me, in your case, you can ask the guy to take care of the old lady while you are going to look for a telephone, and to wait that you will be back. When you are back if he is still there, that means he was compassionate, a good quality, you can talk to him, there is more than one reason for you two to establish a nice conversation and exchange telephone numbers. Done.
there are no 'wrong answers' but there is a best answer!
I would ask my best friend to drive the elderly lady to the hospital in your car and I'd wait for the bus with "the one."
Aside from my temptation to suggest coming back and getting the rest, I would help the old lady first.
Your best friend will understand. Your soulmate will find you again, because who wouldn't remember the hero at the bus stop that gazed into your eyes, made you fall madly in love with them, then did the right thing and saved the day?
I know I should offer a ride to the old lady but - I wouldn't. I'd give a ride to my friend. Go out for a coffee and such.
I already have "the one" so I wouldn't have even noticed the other guy
;-)
Well, I think you ask your dream person to please keep an eye on this elderly lady, while you take your BF to go phone for help and return.
Stop the car, render aid to the elderly female and wait for paramedics...no one would be getting a ride from me.
I would drive just the old lady to hospital, and go back after if they were still there i would pick them both up
I would go for my friend. I would call 911 for the lady that collapsed, I wouldn't even try to move her, I could make things worse for her.. The rescue will take care of her in a better way. If there is no phone I would ask my friend to rush in the car and we both would look for a telephone to call the emergency for the lady. The guy, well I do not care for guys for me, in your case, you can ask the guy to take care of the old lady while you are going to look for a telephone, and to wait that you will be back. When you are back if he is still there, that means he was compassionate, a good quality, you can talk to him, there is more than one reason for you two to establish a nice conversation and exchange telephone numbers. Done.
How to increase my inner circle?
okay so to start off I havent had a girlfriend in years I'm 20 now. And what makes it even worse is that the few friends I've had have moved elsewhere and gotten out of touch. So I need to create a circle again of friends and a girlfriend. So which one should I increase first. Should I make guy friends and then get a girl friend. Or the other way around. I'm kind of in the dilema of that dude in I love you man. Except he has a fiance, where his fiance and her friends talk behind his back about him not having friends so he tries to make friends. So I'd like to hear what ya think.
Build your guild. Bros before hoes (heh...)
Then... you'll be connected to the girl network.
Build your guild. Bros before hoes (heh...)
Then... you'll be connected to the girl network.
Need quick opinions ill give 10pts to best answer?
She denied me back then because she choosed to stay with her abusive bf who hits her and treat her bad and also is a drugi. I had not seen her since i was 15 i em now 23. I have a good life , i have a lamborghini, have my own house.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. She used to treat me bad like ignore me, talk smack. She was still looking for me afterwards. I was upset she lost her v to him, i would have never done that till i put a rock on that finger.
Theres a party going down at my buds house and she will be there i'm just going to ignore her and bring my gf is this ok, and what would you do if you was her in that moment?
If any of you are in Los Angeles hit me up i will invite you!.
Sounds like a loser to me. She probably prefers men who treat her poorly, and was trying to get you to do the same. Also, she probably has a low self-esteem and thinks she deserves it.
If I lived in LA I would go.
That was 8 years ago so it shouldn't matter anymore. Take your girlfriend to the party and if this other girl approaches you it's okay to be civil.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. She used to treat me bad like ignore me, talk smack. She was still looking for me afterwards. I was upset she lost her v to him, i would have never done that till i put a rock on that finger.
Theres a party going down at my buds house and she will be there i'm just going to ignore her and bring my gf is this ok, and what would you do if you was her in that moment?
If any of you are in Los Angeles hit me up i will invite you!.
Sounds like a loser to me. She probably prefers men who treat her poorly, and was trying to get you to do the same. Also, she probably has a low self-esteem and thinks she deserves it.
If I lived in LA I would go.
That was 8 years ago so it shouldn't matter anymore. Take your girlfriend to the party and if this other girl approaches you it's okay to be civil.
Cheating? and how to cure a creeper?
So I have to post this because I don't know what to do and it's a lot to keep locked up:
I'm really close to my brother's fiance and she just told me that so found the chat log on his computer (by accident) of him talking to several girls over spring break. They weren't girls he knew, just webcam picks and chats from sex related sites. She had told him before that she considers this cheating but she was most bothered by his language (which was very creeper-esque) and the fact that he was really having conversations with these girls.
The thing is, she loves him because he's not that kind of guy, he's actually really a sweetheart who is respectful of women. I just don't know what to tell her, I'm used to her coming to me for advice, but I just don't know what to say....
does anyone have any advice? or at least how to cure a second-life-creeper?
Key, the first thing to realize is that you are using denial to justify his actions. You say he loves him because he is not that kind of guy. I got bad news for you...he IS that kind of guy or she would not have found those chat logs to begin with! He is probably just a better BSer/masker than you are giving him credit for. Even psychotic serial killers can pretend to be normal and likable for short periods of time. Why does it seem unreasonable to assume a normal person could not pull it off?
I think your view of this situation is clouded and non-objective for two reasons. First, you are too close to the fianc. Second, you are too close to your brother. You don't want either of them to get hurt and you don't want to see either of them suffer.
Your friend and his fianc need to make some serious choices about their values BEFORE getting married. To ignore this like it never happened or to minimize it like it is no big deal will be a mistake.
men are all disgusting there might be very few who aren't but if he is not actually sticking his pickle into any ones tuna salad then by all means let him do him. At-least he is not stooping to the level most men do and have sex with other people.
You call a guy who talks to high school girls about porn sites a sweetheart? Girl, you got a lot to learn, first off she has every right to know what's going on. It's going to eat you alive (not literally) because you're keeping information that your brother's fiance suspicions are true.
You need to show her the chat logs he's been keeping, again and it'll lose your brother's respect and trust. She knows, you know and it's time for her to let him go and let him do his own thing. One day he'll realize what he's doing is wrong. There's no cure him from his devious ways, because it's under his choice whether or not he'll want to stop.
I'm really close to my brother's fiance and she just told me that so found the chat log on his computer (by accident) of him talking to several girls over spring break. They weren't girls he knew, just webcam picks and chats from sex related sites. She had told him before that she considers this cheating but she was most bothered by his language (which was very creeper-esque) and the fact that he was really having conversations with these girls.
The thing is, she loves him because he's not that kind of guy, he's actually really a sweetheart who is respectful of women. I just don't know what to tell her, I'm used to her coming to me for advice, but I just don't know what to say....
does anyone have any advice? or at least how to cure a second-life-creeper?
Key, the first thing to realize is that you are using denial to justify his actions. You say he loves him because he is not that kind of guy. I got bad news for you...he IS that kind of guy or she would not have found those chat logs to begin with! He is probably just a better BSer/masker than you are giving him credit for. Even psychotic serial killers can pretend to be normal and likable for short periods of time. Why does it seem unreasonable to assume a normal person could not pull it off?
I think your view of this situation is clouded and non-objective for two reasons. First, you are too close to the fianc. Second, you are too close to your brother. You don't want either of them to get hurt and you don't want to see either of them suffer.
Your friend and his fianc need to make some serious choices about their values BEFORE getting married. To ignore this like it never happened or to minimize it like it is no big deal will be a mistake.
men are all disgusting there might be very few who aren't but if he is not actually sticking his pickle into any ones tuna salad then by all means let him do him. At-least he is not stooping to the level most men do and have sex with other people.
You call a guy who talks to high school girls about porn sites a sweetheart? Girl, you got a lot to learn, first off she has every right to know what's going on. It's going to eat you alive (not literally) because you're keeping information that your brother's fiance suspicions are true.
You need to show her the chat logs he's been keeping, again and it'll lose your brother's respect and trust. She knows, you know and it's time for her to let him go and let him do his own thing. One day he'll realize what he's doing is wrong. There's no cure him from his devious ways, because it's under his choice whether or not he'll want to stop.
At what age did you lose your virginity?
Are you a boy or a girl, and how old were you?
Thanks
haha i JUST asked this question ;
female
amost 18 years old
never even kissed a boy, no where close to having sex ! lol
i'm just not ready yet, and haven't found a person i'd want to share what experiance with or like or trust enough ...
i'm still a virgin and am a 19 year old female in college, i say wait as long as you can, and only do it once you've found the right one.
Teenage boy, 16, and still a virgin.
Not planning on opening hells' gates' till I get a job, and set myself up alil' better case a youngin' would pop out of meh love nest.
29-female
27 years old..
13 violent rape
female and i'm in my 30's
when the time is right but dont lose it just bcuz
do it with someone you care about
13,Female:) Wait till your ready...Wish I did.
Still a virgin.
Waiting till 16.
Boy..still virgin..sadly
14 :\
I was 5. And I was molested by my step dad.
ima guy and just about 2 weeks ago im 15
Thanks
haha i JUST asked this question ;
female
amost 18 years old
never even kissed a boy, no where close to having sex ! lol
i'm just not ready yet, and haven't found a person i'd want to share what experiance with or like or trust enough ...
i'm still a virgin and am a 19 year old female in college, i say wait as long as you can, and only do it once you've found the right one.
Teenage boy, 16, and still a virgin.
Not planning on opening hells' gates' till I get a job, and set myself up alil' better case a youngin' would pop out of meh love nest.
29-female
27 years old..
13 violent rape
female and i'm in my 30's
when the time is right but dont lose it just bcuz
do it with someone you care about
13,Female:) Wait till your ready...Wish I did.
Still a virgin.
Waiting till 16.
Boy..still virgin..sadly
14 :\
I was 5. And I was molested by my step dad.
ima guy and just about 2 weeks ago im 15
What would you do if your friend started copying you at everything?
clothes, personality and everthing
and he/she didn't stop even you told him/her..................
would you still be his/her friend?
I have had this same problem before.....Actually still! I have a ex-friend that does or says everything that I do! It is rather annoying! I didn't like it and I still don't like it! I am so glad we are not friends anymore!
and he/she didn't stop even you told him/her..................
would you still be his/her friend?
I have had this same problem before.....Actually still! I have a ex-friend that does or says everything that I do! It is rather annoying! I didn't like it and I still don't like it! I am so glad we are not friends anymore!
How can you distance away from someone?
becasue they were mean to you and he/she was in you class..........
You can keep your distance by just not thinking of a person.
Distance is not just in miles or length.
Ignoring this person who was mean to you. Put them far in thought.
Go about your daily work as usual. Don't glance in their direction.
Don't bring up this matter, don't say their name, don't think so much about what has happened.
Good luck.
You can keep your distance by just not thinking of a person.
Distance is not just in miles or length.
Ignoring this person who was mean to you. Put them far in thought.
Go about your daily work as usual. Don't glance in their direction.
Don't bring up this matter, don't say their name, don't think so much about what has happened.
Good luck.
How do I disable parental GPS tracking on Sprint (family locator)?
So basically, my parents track me every single time i leave the house using Sprint's family locator. Is there any way i can turn this off so they wont be able to track me?
Or does anyone have any ideas of what I can do so i wont be tracked? I dont really like the idea of not bringing my phone with me, cause i DO like calling them to let them know where i am and that im doing fine! I'm 17 by the way. Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks!
Don't take the phone. Tell them you'll be happy to check in with them during nights out when they loosen their grip a little.
im so glad im not in highschool now, just in the past 5 years shits gotten so insane. I have no answer for you just sympathy.
i have no idea :\
im sorry but i kinda feel sorry for you, im 13 and my parents dont try tracking me down
Or does anyone have any ideas of what I can do so i wont be tracked? I dont really like the idea of not bringing my phone with me, cause i DO like calling them to let them know where i am and that im doing fine! I'm 17 by the way. Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks!
Don't take the phone. Tell them you'll be happy to check in with them during nights out when they loosen their grip a little.
im so glad im not in highschool now, just in the past 5 years shits gotten so insane. I have no answer for you just sympathy.
i have no idea :\
im sorry but i kinda feel sorry for you, im 13 and my parents dont try tracking me down
How am I suppose to find a girlfriend who
I Hate being 6"1.5" I HATE IT. One of the reasons why I hate it is because I know I'll never get to have a girlfriend that is taller than me. THAT IS WHAT I WANT!!!!!! I WANT TO BE SHORTER THAN ME GIRLFRIEND, NOT TALLER!!! I always see guys with taller girlfriends and I get really upset at myself because I know I will NEVER get to experience that. I get so upset that I banG my head against the wall WHEN i GET HOME. F#ck God for making me this tall. I HATE BEING THIS TALL!!! IT SUCKS TO BE THIS TALL!!! I HATE IT!!! I get so upset that I just feel like ending my life. YES! That is how be I want to have a girlfriend that is taller than me. But at 6'1.5 I know that this is imposable because women are much, much,much, Much, much, much, much sorter than 6;1.5" I HATE BEING 6'1.5"
Why did I have to be this tall and why do girls have to be so short? I get so upset when I see these guys who are shorter. THEY ACTUALLY HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO DATE A WOMAN TALLER THAN THEM! I DON'T HAVE THAT OPPORTUNITY. Don't get into the whole "women like tall guys" crap, because that's not what this is about. I DO see shorter guys with tall beautiful women. They DO HAVE an opportunity to date someone who's taller. This is going to consume me. I already look at pictures of tall girls for hours online. I always imagine myself being with one of those really tall women you just don't see everyday. I just don't understand why girls have to be biologically shorter than me. It Man, if I could die right now and come back as a shorter person I, I would just be so very happy. I would not longer be an icky "Tall" guy. I would be able to look up at my gilfriend with pride and honor. Guess that will never happen.:(
sHOULD i JUST DIE NOW?
Oh, I hate being 6'1.5"!
I'm a woman who is 6'1". I know women taller than both of this. This is a strange post. Is this a joke?
By the way, you are not that tall for a guy. I know tons of men taller than you even some 6'6" and taller. Maybe you need to get out more and realize that your height is normal.
Women like to date men who are taller than them. Haven't met one who preferred it the other way so chill out. :)
girls dont like being taller than the guy most the time.
So even if you were shorter you would still be S.O.L
Besides theirs tall *** girls out there, you could have AIDS now or something, quit whining.
seek proffessional help i think your height has become an obsession btw my friend is 6'2 and she plays volley ball and i also have a cousin that is 6'5 which is rare but hey its all genes right?
why hate on being tall? my girlfriend is 5'4 im 5'7
girls do like tall guys, you just gott look in the right place
Why did I have to be this tall and why do girls have to be so short? I get so upset when I see these guys who are shorter. THEY ACTUALLY HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO DATE A WOMAN TALLER THAN THEM! I DON'T HAVE THAT OPPORTUNITY. Don't get into the whole "women like tall guys" crap, because that's not what this is about. I DO see shorter guys with tall beautiful women. They DO HAVE an opportunity to date someone who's taller. This is going to consume me. I already look at pictures of tall girls for hours online. I always imagine myself being with one of those really tall women you just don't see everyday. I just don't understand why girls have to be biologically shorter than me. It Man, if I could die right now and come back as a shorter person I, I would just be so very happy. I would not longer be an icky "Tall" guy. I would be able to look up at my gilfriend with pride and honor. Guess that will never happen.:(
sHOULD i JUST DIE NOW?
Oh, I hate being 6'1.5"!
I'm a woman who is 6'1". I know women taller than both of this. This is a strange post. Is this a joke?
By the way, you are not that tall for a guy. I know tons of men taller than you even some 6'6" and taller. Maybe you need to get out more and realize that your height is normal.
Women like to date men who are taller than them. Haven't met one who preferred it the other way so chill out. :)
girls dont like being taller than the guy most the time.
So even if you were shorter you would still be S.O.L
Besides theirs tall *** girls out there, you could have AIDS now or something, quit whining.
seek proffessional help i think your height has become an obsession btw my friend is 6'2 and she plays volley ball and i also have a cousin that is 6'5 which is rare but hey its all genes right?
why hate on being tall? my girlfriend is 5'4 im 5'7
girls do like tall guys, you just gott look in the right place
Guys,dating, peopleeee..................?
how do you know when a guy likes you?
he should want to talk to you a lot like txt you 24/7 or im, he should be happier when you are around, and if you have a fb or myspace or something like that he will probably comment on your pics and status updates and things like that. that's what i do when i like a girl.
drops hints. flirts. uhhhhh....compliments you on your eyes or something.......blushes wehn he does something stupid and you laugh.....
If a guy really LIKES you....YOU WILL KNOW
You ask him. Then you know for sure.
he should want to talk to you a lot like txt you 24/7 or im, he should be happier when you are around, and if you have a fb or myspace or something like that he will probably comment on your pics and status updates and things like that. that's what i do when i like a girl.
drops hints. flirts. uhhhhh....compliments you on your eyes or something.......blushes wehn he does something stupid and you laugh.....
If a guy really LIKES you....YOU WILL KNOW
You ask him. Then you know for sure.
What is my husbands problem?
He is 44,im 40 and we have been happily married 18 yrs..We have always gotten along great,rarely fight,love each other more then anything,totally devoted to each other and our marriage and we both are still very affectionate with each other with lots of hugs,kisses and cuddling...During our entire marriage i am the 1 who has initiated most of the time and yea he has initiated too but me way more then him...Last yr we went 8 months without having sex from january to february because i was waiting for him to initiate...Well anyways finally in october 2008 i broke down and initiate but after that we only have had sex like 4 or 5 times and now since late february we havent done anything and as usual i am waiting to see if he will initiate but he hasnt yet...I have asked him if he ever wants to have sex and he says he of course but just wont initiate and when i ask him why he hasnt he says to me "why havent you"..He definelelty can still get erections,he isnt depressed and doesnt have any stress in his life,his job is going great,he isnt taking and medications,he ISNT cheating...He is strongly against infidelity plus he wouldnt hurt me or our marriage like that and like i said he doesnt and never did have erection problems because when i am laying in his arms he gets hard in minutes so i know he is still definetely attracted to me and says so...I have asked him a few times if he is bored with our sex life and he has said no....I am so sick of talking to him about this...In the past i have told him numerous times that he should intiate more often and he said he would but nothing has changed....Since the last time we had sex in late february i have asked him a few times...'Havent you wanted to have sex" and he says "yea of course" but yet doesnt initiate so i guess he really doesnt want to cause i figure if he did then he would just initiate..I havent changed in appearnce i have always been heavy ever since i was around 17 and now i am 40 BUT he met me heavy,married me heavy and it has never bothered him 1 bit....Like i said when i ask him why he doesnt initiate he says back to me "why havent you"...I am so tired of talking to him about this...I'm thru talking cause it doesnt help.
When i do initate he is always ready and very willing and has never turned me down.
Like i said he has initiate during our marriage but its been me most of the time but he doesnt even initiate at all anymore and no he isnt cheating so dont even go there he loves me more then anything and would never hurt me or our marriage that way plus i know his views on cheating..He is totally against infidelity
He doesnt have to worry about rejection because i have never said no to him because i love making love with him
This sounds funny to me. Is there a possibility that you are wrong in your assumptions of your husband? Something isn't right or he would be initiating sex more often. Is there communication problems between the two of you? Is it possible you have rejected him, and you don't remember? I would try again to try and find out what the problem is. If he can get an erection easily than the problem obviously isn't a physical one. Does he have any physical problems that would interfere with his libido? I would sit your husband down and have a serious talk with him in regards to your sex life. Good luck!
hard to say for sure - if I were you I would keep on initiating and not dwell on it too much.
When i do initate he is always ready and very willing and has never turned me down.
Like i said he has initiate during our marriage but its been me most of the time but he doesnt even initiate at all anymore and no he isnt cheating so dont even go there he loves me more then anything and would never hurt me or our marriage that way plus i know his views on cheating..He is totally against infidelity
He doesnt have to worry about rejection because i have never said no to him because i love making love with him
This sounds funny to me. Is there a possibility that you are wrong in your assumptions of your husband? Something isn't right or he would be initiating sex more often. Is there communication problems between the two of you? Is it possible you have rejected him, and you don't remember? I would try again to try and find out what the problem is. If he can get an erection easily than the problem obviously isn't a physical one. Does he have any physical problems that would interfere with his libido? I would sit your husband down and have a serious talk with him in regards to your sex life. Good luck!
hard to say for sure - if I were you I would keep on initiating and not dwell on it too much.
What should i get my boyfriend for his birthday?
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and his birthday is in May. I have looked all over the internet for interesting things to get him but everything seems too extravagent or not original at all or just something that is not really him. He will be turning 15. He is vegetarian and really into screamo music and he likes punk music too. He likes theatre and is not really into sports that much. can anyone help me think of somehting thoughtful and original for him because i have picked my brain and cant seem to think of anything good! Thanks!
The best thing to get him is ur company a gift is a bonus but if he has a video game system like a xbox 360 or ps3 get him guitar hero or rock band.serprise him with a kiss and a hug spend as much time u can with him. That is the best thing I no he will like that. I'm ganna be 16 in may and that's wat I want from my girl mostly all bf's want 2 spend time wit there girl on there bday. good luck
Are there any theatre events going on around your town? Maybe get some tickets to that and then a t-shirt of one of his favorite bands (try Hot Topic). Make the gift fun! And then write him a nice card saying how much you care about him, wrap the presents, and give them to him!
Take him to a play at some out of the way theatre - even an amateur affair. You'll both feel so grown-up. You could go out after for sushi just like real people after the show.
The best thing to get him is ur company a gift is a bonus but if he has a video game system like a xbox 360 or ps3 get him guitar hero or rock band.serprise him with a kiss and a hug spend as much time u can with him. That is the best thing I no he will like that. I'm ganna be 16 in may and that's wat I want from my girl mostly all bf's want 2 spend time wit there girl on there bday. good luck
Are there any theatre events going on around your town? Maybe get some tickets to that and then a t-shirt of one of his favorite bands (try Hot Topic). Make the gift fun! And then write him a nice card saying how much you care about him, wrap the presents, and give them to him!
Take him to a play at some out of the way theatre - even an amateur affair. You'll both feel so grown-up. You could go out after for sushi just like real people after the show.
Women and the waiting game..?
Ok so the girl that I'm interested in is (lately) playing the waiting game with me (with the phone, email etc.). She NEVER use to do that before, and even though we aren't offically a couple would it be alright if I dated other girls until she comes around. Or should I wait for her? I don't feel its right for me to wait around like this constantly so I figured I go out and date to popentially meet someone better, what do you think?
Also I was wondering if women like playing the waiting game and other mind games does that mean women like it if men do it to them too (etc, the waiting game, the playing hard to get game)? Serious answers only. Thanks :D
Your problem here is assuming that all women are alike. I, personally, would hate it if a guy a) slept around while still acting as though he was interested or b) tried to play mind games with me. (That said, I don't do it to them either).
Keeping in mind that communication is the best foundation for a relationship, you should probably call her and ask if there's a reason she's been putting off responding to you. Possibly there's a problem she hasn't told you about. If there isn't, let her know that the waiting is really bothering you, and if she doesn't want to be fully and whole-heartedly in a relationship, you're going to bugger off.
As long as you are not exclusive than you don't owe her anything. However, if you really like this girl than I would be careful how you do it. If she thinks there is more to your relationship than what you are saying than she is going to be very angry with you. Keep in mind that it is a possibility that you might loose her. Another possibility is that she will come running back to you. Good luck!
Be up front and ask. Give her a call and see what level you are on. If it's a friend level, then say "see ya later." I don't know of anyone that plays these games but if somebody wants to try one on me...I move on.
It means they don't really care about you anyway.
Also I was wondering if women like playing the waiting game and other mind games does that mean women like it if men do it to them too (etc, the waiting game, the playing hard to get game)? Serious answers only. Thanks :D
Your problem here is assuming that all women are alike. I, personally, would hate it if a guy a) slept around while still acting as though he was interested or b) tried to play mind games with me. (That said, I don't do it to them either).
Keeping in mind that communication is the best foundation for a relationship, you should probably call her and ask if there's a reason she's been putting off responding to you. Possibly there's a problem she hasn't told you about. If there isn't, let her know that the waiting is really bothering you, and if she doesn't want to be fully and whole-heartedly in a relationship, you're going to bugger off.
As long as you are not exclusive than you don't owe her anything. However, if you really like this girl than I would be careful how you do it. If she thinks there is more to your relationship than what you are saying than she is going to be very angry with you. Keep in mind that it is a possibility that you might loose her. Another possibility is that she will come running back to you. Good luck!
Be up front and ask. Give her a call and see what level you are on. If it's a friend level, then say "see ya later." I don't know of anyone that plays these games but if somebody wants to try one on me...I move on.
It means they don't really care about you anyway.
Domestic violence assignment, due 2morow. 10 points?
Identify at least 2 strategies young people can use to help them overcome domestic violence.
10 points to most helpful.
One of the most important thing you can do to overcome domestic violence is to contact your local Domestic Violence agency. They can, for the most part, help you with shelter, food, counseling, and anything else you might need help with.
Making a plan is also important because when you are in a crisis situation, you need to have a plan to keep you safe.
Educating yourself, so you can be more independent is also important, so you won't have to rely on your significant other to support you.
Individual counseling and support groups can help you find out why you were in the relationship to begin with. This is especially helpful for women who keep getting into abusive relationships. Support groups can help you develop self esteem and knowledge, so you don't feel like you are the only one going through this difficult time.
Books, books, books. Educating yourself about abuse and domestic violence is the key to ending the cycle of abuse that plagues many women.
Strategy 1 - You have to be educated about violence. Understand different types of violence, verbal, physical...
Having an understanding of violence will help you identify it.
Strategy 2 - You have to know what to do if you or anyone you know is dealing with domestic violence...
Who you can talk to, Who can help you, What can be done about it.
10 points to most helpful.
One of the most important thing you can do to overcome domestic violence is to contact your local Domestic Violence agency. They can, for the most part, help you with shelter, food, counseling, and anything else you might need help with.
Making a plan is also important because when you are in a crisis situation, you need to have a plan to keep you safe.
Educating yourself, so you can be more independent is also important, so you won't have to rely on your significant other to support you.
Individual counseling and support groups can help you find out why you were in the relationship to begin with. This is especially helpful for women who keep getting into abusive relationships. Support groups can help you develop self esteem and knowledge, so you don't feel like you are the only one going through this difficult time.
Books, books, books. Educating yourself about abuse and domestic violence is the key to ending the cycle of abuse that plagues many women.
Strategy 1 - You have to be educated about violence. Understand different types of violence, verbal, physical...
Having an understanding of violence will help you identify it.
Strategy 2 - You have to know what to do if you or anyone you know is dealing with domestic violence...
Who you can talk to, Who can help you, What can be done about it.
How to make my boyfriend fall in love with me?
i want my boyfriend fall in love with me. he is divorced and got 3 kids. he did not introduce me yet to his children. i feel he is hiding me to them. am i feel hurt. we have sex everytime we see each other. i feel i am a sex toy to him. but he said i am more than a girl friend to him.
Lighten up on the sex and see if he still hangs around. Do it less frequently and try to spend quality time with him in other ways. If he gets angry or wants nothing to do with you, you'll have your answer. If not, then maybe you can build a relationship and eventually meet his kids. Don't let yourself get sucked into a bad relationship because you're insecure. Respect yourself. Watch his actions, not just his words.
slow the sex down a notch. Plus you can't make him fall for you.
Lighten up on the sex and see if he still hangs around. Do it less frequently and try to spend quality time with him in other ways. If he gets angry or wants nothing to do with you, you'll have your answer. If not, then maybe you can build a relationship and eventually meet his kids. Don't let yourself get sucked into a bad relationship because you're insecure. Respect yourself. Watch his actions, not just his words.
slow the sex down a notch. Plus you can't make him fall for you.
Is my professor just being friendly or something more?
Sorry this is long, but the background is important: So I have this professor who is well liked by all, a great teacher, very funny, accomplished, good looking etc so I obviously respect him as a teacher and as an individual. I guess I have a little crush on him. He is such an inspiring individual and has all the qualities I look for in a man.
He is, however 12 years older than me and is married with kids so he is clearly off limits. He seems to treat me differently from other students though, and I don't know if it's because I want to see it that way, or if he really likes me. For example, during class he spends way more time looking at me than anyone else, often making eye contact with me for 10 seconds at a time, and always looks at me first after making a joke (to see if I'm laughing?). People tell me I am good looking so I guess this isn't too surprising? After class I have gone to ask him questions a few times, and he usually ends up asking me questions about myself, on a few occasions these after-class chats have lasted 1 1/2 hours. He never misses an opportunity to point out what we have in common, or to suggest we chat again soon. I always get A's in his class, although I have heard he never gives A's and is a very tough grader. I am a good student so this is also not too surprising.
But then the other day after talking to him about class he squeezed my arm a few times as I turned to walk away. I think I know the difference between a friendly squeeze and a squeeze that means something more. This squeeze had "purpose", not gentle but not painful. He then looked me in the eye and smiled...There were other students around but no one noticed because he walked behind me as he did this, blocking their view. Should this just be interpreted as a friendly gesture? Or something more? There are many more examples but I don't want to waste anyone's time.
I would never initiate anything not only because he is clearly off-limits (I have nothing against teacher-student relationships, it's him being married that I would have a problem with), but also because I am bad at reading people, and am not very flirty. But I would just like to know what I should make of his treatment of me. Any advice would be very appreciated!
It does sound like you're very curious to know his feelings for you, while saying that he's off-limits. It sounds like a fantasy for him has developed in your mind, and since you haven't been forced to choose between your values towards marriage and your deep desire for him, you're stuck in limbo. Meanwhile, maybe you are wondering if his marriage is unhappy, etc?
So my question for you: what would you do if he DOES have amorous feelings for you? Forget it and move on? Consider a relationship with him? Not sure at all?
If you've decided that you would just leave it alone & reject his offer to something more than a student-professor relationship, then why does it matter if his touch is more than friendly?
It sounds like you want it to be romantic, and I see where you are coming from. If that is the case - if you want him to have feelings for you - you do know that a relationship with a professor can have consequences for his career, reputation, etc? (aside from his marital status) The university may frown upon and may even dismiss him for this. If you truly care for him, keep this in the front of your mind as you go about all your interaction with him. If you really like him, keep his best interests at heart and don't do anything that would jeopardize his career & reputation.
As for the squeeze... based on the way you describe it, it sounds like he didn't want others to see it, but he did it in such a way that if they did see it, he could have explained it by saying it was just friendly.
I agree with love, be very very careful about this. Your professor is way out of line. I know it might be tough but I would suggest totally cutting down on the interactions with him before he gets the wrong idea and puts you in a terrible position. Good luck.
ID SAY GO FOR IT CAUSE 12 YEARS ISNT THAT BAD
BUT HES MARRIED --- AND HAS KIDS SO THATS TO BAD
IM SORRY BUT KEEP ME UPDATED OKAY
TO SEE IF HES GETTING MORE PHYSICAL
I'll just give it to you straight. You keep reiterating that he's "clearly off-limits," but I'm getting the vibe that you'd pursue it if he did. This could get dangerous, considering his family. I would kind of cool off and stop making as much eye contact. Remove yourself from unnecessary situations when you're alone together. If you have a legitimate question that needs to be answered, that's one thing. Otherwise, considering your attraction to him and his apparent fondness for you, I'd lay off. It could get nasty.
He is, however 12 years older than me and is married with kids so he is clearly off limits. He seems to treat me differently from other students though, and I don't know if it's because I want to see it that way, or if he really likes me. For example, during class he spends way more time looking at me than anyone else, often making eye contact with me for 10 seconds at a time, and always looks at me first after making a joke (to see if I'm laughing?). People tell me I am good looking so I guess this isn't too surprising? After class I have gone to ask him questions a few times, and he usually ends up asking me questions about myself, on a few occasions these after-class chats have lasted 1 1/2 hours. He never misses an opportunity to point out what we have in common, or to suggest we chat again soon. I always get A's in his class, although I have heard he never gives A's and is a very tough grader. I am a good student so this is also not too surprising.
But then the other day after talking to him about class he squeezed my arm a few times as I turned to walk away. I think I know the difference between a friendly squeeze and a squeeze that means something more. This squeeze had "purpose", not gentle but not painful. He then looked me in the eye and smiled...There were other students around but no one noticed because he walked behind me as he did this, blocking their view. Should this just be interpreted as a friendly gesture? Or something more? There are many more examples but I don't want to waste anyone's time.
I would never initiate anything not only because he is clearly off-limits (I have nothing against teacher-student relationships, it's him being married that I would have a problem with), but also because I am bad at reading people, and am not very flirty. But I would just like to know what I should make of his treatment of me. Any advice would be very appreciated!
It does sound like you're very curious to know his feelings for you, while saying that he's off-limits. It sounds like a fantasy for him has developed in your mind, and since you haven't been forced to choose between your values towards marriage and your deep desire for him, you're stuck in limbo. Meanwhile, maybe you are wondering if his marriage is unhappy, etc?
So my question for you: what would you do if he DOES have amorous feelings for you? Forget it and move on? Consider a relationship with him? Not sure at all?
If you've decided that you would just leave it alone & reject his offer to something more than a student-professor relationship, then why does it matter if his touch is more than friendly?
It sounds like you want it to be romantic, and I see where you are coming from. If that is the case - if you want him to have feelings for you - you do know that a relationship with a professor can have consequences for his career, reputation, etc? (aside from his marital status) The university may frown upon and may even dismiss him for this. If you truly care for him, keep this in the front of your mind as you go about all your interaction with him. If you really like him, keep his best interests at heart and don't do anything that would jeopardize his career & reputation.
As for the squeeze... based on the way you describe it, it sounds like he didn't want others to see it, but he did it in such a way that if they did see it, he could have explained it by saying it was just friendly.
I agree with love, be very very careful about this. Your professor is way out of line. I know it might be tough but I would suggest totally cutting down on the interactions with him before he gets the wrong idea and puts you in a terrible position. Good luck.
ID SAY GO FOR IT CAUSE 12 YEARS ISNT THAT BAD
BUT HES MARRIED --- AND HAS KIDS SO THATS TO BAD
IM SORRY BUT KEEP ME UPDATED OKAY
TO SEE IF HES GETTING MORE PHYSICAL
I'll just give it to you straight. You keep reiterating that he's "clearly off-limits," but I'm getting the vibe that you'd pursue it if he did. This could get dangerous, considering his family. I would kind of cool off and stop making as much eye contact. Remove yourself from unnecessary situations when you're alone together. If you have a legitimate question that needs to be answered, that's one thing. Otherwise, considering your attraction to him and his apparent fondness for you, I'd lay off. It could get nasty.
How do people that have babies have sex?
If you have a newborn, how do you manage to have sex? I mean, if you are sleeping with the baby or in the same room, do people just opt out of having sex once they have a baby?
Me and my husband had sex when our little one was asleep. My baby slept all night long and still does.. I am just lucky..
Of courses!
It's totally Natural!
but you a are a "vertal murtal"
be carefull!
when we had our first baby we usually had sex in the living room. when the second came she went straight to her room!!!
Me and my husband had sex when our little one was asleep. My baby slept all night long and still does.. I am just lucky..
Of courses!
It's totally Natural!
but you a are a "vertal murtal"
be carefull!
when we had our first baby we usually had sex in the living room. when the second came she went straight to her room!!!
What do you think people think about you?
that im like jekyll and hyde. sometimes i can be happy, bouncy and giggly me and most other times a miserable b****.
I am not sure.
I think what really matters is how I think of myself. If I am feeling full of live, energetic and positive I think that people will see a happy me. If I am feeling dumpy like the world is coming to end, I think people will run the other way.
Why do you care? U only need opinion of ur friends and people close to you! "U may think about me whatever u want - I don't think about u at all" (Aristotel)
"If u want to have no critisism, don't do anything, don't go anywhere and be no1!"
Hope it helps:)
i'm not sure
some of my friends say i'm cute (i'm guessing like adorable cute), and i guess they think that i'm a crazy, fun, understanding, trustworthy, loving person?...not too sure though
why does it matter? i dont give a **** what people think about me
its what i think about myself
and what i can do! then people will see me for what i see in myself.
at first ppl think i'm preppy and stuck up, but once they are in trouble or need advice, they see i'm open minded and very caring.
Hopefully that I am a decent human being but my friends know who I am anyway and as for anyone else if they dont like me then its their problem not mine.
i dont know and really dont care to be honest i am who i am and if they dont like it they can stay away from me am not gonna force anyone to be my friend or to like me
Well, people say I'm funny; that I make them laugh!!!! And, hopefully, they think I'm a good person.
dont care neither should yooooo!!!
I am not sure.
I think what really matters is how I think of myself. If I am feeling full of live, energetic and positive I think that people will see a happy me. If I am feeling dumpy like the world is coming to end, I think people will run the other way.
Why do you care? U only need opinion of ur friends and people close to you! "U may think about me whatever u want - I don't think about u at all" (Aristotel)
"If u want to have no critisism, don't do anything, don't go anywhere and be no1!"
Hope it helps:)
i'm not sure
some of my friends say i'm cute (i'm guessing like adorable cute), and i guess they think that i'm a crazy, fun, understanding, trustworthy, loving person?...not too sure though
why does it matter? i dont give a **** what people think about me
its what i think about myself
and what i can do! then people will see me for what i see in myself.
at first ppl think i'm preppy and stuck up, but once they are in trouble or need advice, they see i'm open minded and very caring.
Hopefully that I am a decent human being but my friends know who I am anyway and as for anyone else if they dont like me then its their problem not mine.
i dont know and really dont care to be honest i am who i am and if they dont like it they can stay away from me am not gonna force anyone to be my friend or to like me
Well, people say I'm funny; that I make them laugh!!!! And, hopefully, they think I'm a good person.
dont care neither should yooooo!!!
How to accept his decision?
I'm in love with him and he loves me. He says "I'm not good for you or anyone right now", I'm not asking advice on how to win him over, it's not going to happen. How do I find a positive place in my heart to accept that i will never see how this could have been?
hun not to be rude
but he just isnt that into you
if you love someone you be them no matter what
it will take time but accept it and move on
be strong!!
and thank you for not being those stupid girls saying how do i make a guy with me??
your smart and im very sorry you are in this kind of situation
it will be ok
hun not to be rude
but he just isnt that into you
if you love someone you be them no matter what
it will take time but accept it and move on
be strong!!
and thank you for not being those stupid girls saying how do i make a guy with me??
your smart and im very sorry you are in this kind of situation
it will be ok
Does it matter? Guys or Girls?
All my life i felt like i got on way better with guys, when i would hang out with girls they would just do the bitchyiest meanest things, i like to motobike ride, drink, much around and do like rough things, here's the problem im currentley in a relationship and have been for a long time i don't have any friends cause i dont like hanging around girls but i can't have guy friends cause my bf will kill me, and heres another problem if i am seen hanging around any guy friends ppl think the worst and start spreading rumors....wat do i do?
i have the same problem almost
but his best friends are my good friends
so everything works out
if your bf is understanding then he will let you hang out with ur friends whether they are girls or guys
trust is very important in a relationship
try to find some girls that like the same things you do,
you shouldnt necessarily go against your boy's wishes because if it was flipped you probably wouldn't want him to hang with girls
i have the same problem almost
but his best friends are my good friends
so everything works out
if your bf is understanding then he will let you hang out with ur friends whether they are girls or guys
trust is very important in a relationship
try to find some girls that like the same things you do,
you shouldnt necessarily go against your boy's wishes because if it was flipped you probably wouldn't want him to hang with girls
I need advice here plz read i
She denied me back then because she choosed to stay with her abusive bf who hits her and treated her bad and also is a drugi. She lost her v to him at 15. I had not seen her since i was 15 i em now 23. I have a good life , i have a lamborghini, have my own house.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. Note that she treated me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and word is she will be there.
The question is what would you do if you were her in that moment?, and should i approach her or just ignore her and have my bud say you remember him, and no i don't like her no more.
i can tell you still like her seeing as your very worried about what she is gonan think of you and how you should approach her.
be the bigger person and say hi to her, flirt with her of coarsee but if she treats you bad like she used to, dont give her any more of your attention.
if she denied you before, and she chose to stay with her loser of a boyfriend i would deny her. she was stupid enough to chose him over you and she played you. she just wanted you for her sexual needs, and she threw you in the trash.
i wouldnt want someone like that.
I believe that you still have feelings for her. You just don't want to admit to them, because you don't want to run that risk of liking her and wanting to be with her all over again. Cause if you really didn't like her any more you wouldn't care how to approach her. But the answer that I am going to give you is talk her. You might have a good time just catching up. But just don't expect to much, because chances are that she is still with the same guy and she defends him because she loves him. And that won't change until she's ready for it to change.
Well, I cannot answer your first question because I am not her and would not be in the abusive relationship she is in.
What would be the point in approaching her? She has clearly made her choice. She is not going to leave her boyfriend for you. At the party, if she is there, act polite don ignore her if she talks to you and don bring up anything that happened between the two of you in the past, what would be the point?
You can be polite to strangers so do the same to her, keep it very casual.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. Note that she treated me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and word is she will be there.
The question is what would you do if you were her in that moment?, and should i approach her or just ignore her and have my bud say you remember him, and no i don't like her no more.
i can tell you still like her seeing as your very worried about what she is gonan think of you and how you should approach her.
be the bigger person and say hi to her, flirt with her of coarsee but if she treats you bad like she used to, dont give her any more of your attention.
if she denied you before, and she chose to stay with her loser of a boyfriend i would deny her. she was stupid enough to chose him over you and she played you. she just wanted you for her sexual needs, and she threw you in the trash.
i wouldnt want someone like that.
I believe that you still have feelings for her. You just don't want to admit to them, because you don't want to run that risk of liking her and wanting to be with her all over again. Cause if you really didn't like her any more you wouldn't care how to approach her. But the answer that I am going to give you is talk her. You might have a good time just catching up. But just don't expect to much, because chances are that she is still with the same guy and she defends him because she loves him. And that won't change until she's ready for it to change.
Well, I cannot answer your first question because I am not her and would not be in the abusive relationship she is in.
What would be the point in approaching her? She has clearly made her choice. She is not going to leave her boyfriend for you. At the party, if she is there, act polite don ignore her if she talks to you and don bring up anything that happened between the two of you in the past, what would be the point?
You can be polite to strangers so do the same to her, keep it very casual.
Where do I go from here?
I want to find my biological father. I don't know his name, and no one in my family will talk about him. And for some reason they don't have him on my birth certificate. All I have is an old photo of him and my mom.
What can I do to find him?
Google your moms name and see what comes up
What can I do to find him?
Google your moms name and see what comes up
HELP!! UGH Y IS HE ACTING LIKE THIS?
okay so theres this guy who at first we were soo into eachother and i really fell for him but then all of a sudden he was like maybe its best if we dont tlk and then two days later hes like hi i dont know wat todo or if i should tlk to him or anything its like he hurt me alot by wat he did but i still like himm alot i miss him so much id know wat to do plz HELP!!!
It could be a lot of things, I'm afraid. Maybe he heard a bad rumour about you or something like that, maybe you dated one of his friends and he didn't want to get into it? I wish I could help, but it really depends on the context. Also, maybe he told his parents about you or something and he isn't allowed to be in a relationship? I would go for the direct confrontation, if you can, just ask him why he's been acting weird. Hope it works out!
You'll forget about him eventually, these type of things are your growing pains....... in a way. Gotta go thru it. Spend some time with your friends, or doing something you totally enjoy, or go to the mall. good luck
you can talk to him if you want just don't let him hurt you or take advantage of you :)
well
he may have just been confused
you may have inadvertently been giving him the wrong signals
Maybe he said this because he liked antoher girl while liking you.
but then he moved on and liked you again.
ehhh let him go!
he's not worth it!
you can definately find someone better [:
He has a multiple personality disorder...get over that loser and find you a nice guy...they're there...i think i might have found one...lol
if he ignores you or doent want to talk do the same maybe he will like you again
Looks like he has found a new soul buddy.Move on.
Just keep talking to him
Simple...He's not in to you. Move on
idk..
maybe he was being SARCASTIC
or just pulling ur strings...
It could be a lot of things, I'm afraid. Maybe he heard a bad rumour about you or something like that, maybe you dated one of his friends and he didn't want to get into it? I wish I could help, but it really depends on the context. Also, maybe he told his parents about you or something and he isn't allowed to be in a relationship? I would go for the direct confrontation, if you can, just ask him why he's been acting weird. Hope it works out!
You'll forget about him eventually, these type of things are your growing pains....... in a way. Gotta go thru it. Spend some time with your friends, or doing something you totally enjoy, or go to the mall. good luck
you can talk to him if you want just don't let him hurt you or take advantage of you :)
well
he may have just been confused
you may have inadvertently been giving him the wrong signals
Maybe he said this because he liked antoher girl while liking you.
but then he moved on and liked you again.
ehhh let him go!
he's not worth it!
you can definately find someone better [:
He has a multiple personality disorder...get over that loser and find you a nice guy...they're there...i think i might have found one...lol
if he ignores you or doent want to talk do the same maybe he will like you again
Looks like he has found a new soul buddy.Move on.
Just keep talking to him
Simple...He's not in to you. Move on
idk..
maybe he was being SARCASTIC
or just pulling ur strings...
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