should i go home and reconcile with my family before easter and go bowling on sunday or should i stay in my dorm and keep my roomate company?
Take your roomate bowling at home with your family....
Show him your pet rabbit and your turtle named speedy.
Maybe go for some ice-cream at the dairy-queen then finish the whole weekend by playing scrabble or clue...I bet you win....
The right thing to do would be to go home for Easter since you always see your roomate - bowling will be there next weekend.
HELL IDE GO HOME IF NOT YOUR JUST CHILLIN
Bowling with the fam!
go bowling with your family and friends..
Thursday, April 2, 2009
I really like this guy but i don
i really like this guy at my surf club and we've been doing lifesaving together for about 2 months now, and it seems that he always wants to be near me coz he always hangs round me and he has been asking me out to lunch whilst on our break of lifesaving and he shouted me a $2 muffin one day :) and yehhh and last night i asked him he would want to come with me to a party and he replied he'd love to and he also asked when i was doing lifesaving again coz he really wants to be down there with me :)
is there some obvious connection or flirting or just like stuff going on, do you think?
advice please :) thank you
i reckon he likes ya
wants ya sexy bod down at bondi some time ;)
<3333
if he doesn't make any effort to contact you or see you or any sort of attention apart from the obvious frequent meeting you guys meet, i guess you shouldn't fall too early,,,wait a lil bit..may be he is just trying to take advantage of the privilege or may be he is also waiting
you cant really tell
time will tell
but just just act normal
nothing obsessive or weird
be yourself and have fun (not that fun! lol)
i think he really likes you. Just relax and have a good time while going out with him.
Seeing as you haven't been in a relationship yet, you should consider this a learning experience and just go with it as far as you can, and understand that this will not be your last man. It should be fairly easy for you to actually get the relationship in motion, just follow his example of flirting and communication, only, womanize it so it wouldn't seem too obvious. Like for example, He says " Like your earrings, they make you look pretty" then sometime lator on in the date you will say " You look pretty fit, do you workout? "
Not the best example, w/e you get the point.
Good-luck, and don't worry about mucking everything up, first relationships are like first jobs, they aren't going to last.
is there some obvious connection or flirting or just like stuff going on, do you think?
advice please :) thank you
i reckon he likes ya
wants ya sexy bod down at bondi some time ;)
<3333
if he doesn't make any effort to contact you or see you or any sort of attention apart from the obvious frequent meeting you guys meet, i guess you shouldn't fall too early,,,wait a lil bit..may be he is just trying to take advantage of the privilege or may be he is also waiting
you cant really tell
time will tell
but just just act normal
nothing obsessive or weird
be yourself and have fun (not that fun! lol)
i think he really likes you. Just relax and have a good time while going out with him.
Seeing as you haven't been in a relationship yet, you should consider this a learning experience and just go with it as far as you can, and understand that this will not be your last man. It should be fairly easy for you to actually get the relationship in motion, just follow his example of flirting and communication, only, womanize it so it wouldn't seem too obvious. Like for example, He says " Like your earrings, they make you look pretty" then sometime lator on in the date you will say " You look pretty fit, do you workout? "
Not the best example, w/e you get the point.
Good-luck, and don't worry about mucking everything up, first relationships are like first jobs, they aren't going to last.
I am goin crazy about this?
i had a dream last night that my dad was molesting me and he has never in real life.
i woke up all scared cuz this has never hppened before (the dream)
what can it mean
Dreams don't really have any meanings, some dreams are just your mind wondering around, maybe you heard something about it and you thought of it in your dreams, I wouldn't worry about it much especially when you said yourself he has never done such a thing, don't pay attention to that dream
pray and hope nothing bad happens
think of it this way
may be you eat a lot and went straight ot bed
may be there wasn't enough air in the room to keep you through the night
just say to the dream that its never going to happen
and just a reminder *dreams can help you avoid what to come it doesn't mean it is going to happen by hook or crook*
just take it as a revelation and avoid it through prayers!
A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world.
-Oscar Wilde
Well, this dream could have happened for a couple of reasons. You might have been sexually abused by your father and the memory has been suppressed until now. Or it could be a unconscious desire you have for your father. Either way, I don't think that dream would just pop up out of nowhere.
Hmmm that's pretty crazy.
I would say that you should talk to your mom about it.
well...a very weird 1.....bt den dat was jus a dream......so i thnk u shud jus chuck it...nd not thnk abt it ;)
i woke up all scared cuz this has never hppened before (the dream)
what can it mean
Dreams don't really have any meanings, some dreams are just your mind wondering around, maybe you heard something about it and you thought of it in your dreams, I wouldn't worry about it much especially when you said yourself he has never done such a thing, don't pay attention to that dream
pray and hope nothing bad happens
think of it this way
may be you eat a lot and went straight ot bed
may be there wasn't enough air in the room to keep you through the night
just say to the dream that its never going to happen
and just a reminder *dreams can help you avoid what to come it doesn't mean it is going to happen by hook or crook*
just take it as a revelation and avoid it through prayers!
A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world.
-Oscar Wilde
Well, this dream could have happened for a couple of reasons. You might have been sexually abused by your father and the memory has been suppressed until now. Or it could be a unconscious desire you have for your father. Either way, I don't think that dream would just pop up out of nowhere.
Hmmm that's pretty crazy.
I would say that you should talk to your mom about it.
well...a very weird 1.....bt den dat was jus a dream......so i thnk u shud jus chuck it...nd not thnk abt it ;)
What is wrong with me? i didnt no them very well...now they are dead from a car accident and im?
there was a big car accident the other day at the end of my road. 3 people died. 1 girl i new but not like very well and then the other 2 im pretty sure iv met but i cant remember. im not sure why but this accident has been bthering me a lot. i havent been sleeping at night and then i come home from school and sleep for hours to make up what i missed.
i have lost 3 other very close people to me in car accidents that last like 4 years or so, could this be y im so stressed??
also i dont have much energy bc i havent been sleeping a ton so i may skip cheer this thursday. i dont want to end up hurt.
i really didnt no the people that well but im for some reason really hurt by it.
whats wrong with me? is it wrong of me to morn for people i didnt no very well??
im 14
Theres nothing wrong with you! Im sorry for your loss and I hope you have had the support you need. Losing one person is bad enough-you lost three.
Of course you were affected by the more recent deaths,you can relate to how devastating it is.
You should talk to someone- a professional. Noone is meant to endure something like this alone and don't think needing help means you're crazy.
Put your healing proccess first.
yes it is normal
you probably have a good heart
it is possible that the memories from the other accident might also cause you to feel for the ppl who have lost their love ones
its normal
you will get over it
just don't panic
pray for the lost ppl
may they R.I.P.....
You should morn for others. Its part of life and growing up. Its very sad of the tradegies people face and this happens daily, hourly and every minute. Try not to be a fatality by using common sense. There are so many sensless deaths every year by kids thinking it will never happen to them. So your 14, close to being in high school. Be carefull with the people you choose to ride with or hang with. Your depressed by what you have seen and your inner self is telling you to wise up this could be you.
i have lost 3 other very close people to me in car accidents that last like 4 years or so, could this be y im so stressed??
also i dont have much energy bc i havent been sleeping a ton so i may skip cheer this thursday. i dont want to end up hurt.
i really didnt no the people that well but im for some reason really hurt by it.
whats wrong with me? is it wrong of me to morn for people i didnt no very well??
im 14
Theres nothing wrong with you! Im sorry for your loss and I hope you have had the support you need. Losing one person is bad enough-you lost three.
Of course you were affected by the more recent deaths,you can relate to how devastating it is.
You should talk to someone- a professional. Noone is meant to endure something like this alone and don't think needing help means you're crazy.
Put your healing proccess first.
yes it is normal
you probably have a good heart
it is possible that the memories from the other accident might also cause you to feel for the ppl who have lost their love ones
its normal
you will get over it
just don't panic
pray for the lost ppl
may they R.I.P.....
You should morn for others. Its part of life and growing up. Its very sad of the tradegies people face and this happens daily, hourly and every minute. Try not to be a fatality by using common sense. There are so many sensless deaths every year by kids thinking it will never happen to them. So your 14, close to being in high school. Be carefull with the people you choose to ride with or hang with. Your depressed by what you have seen and your inner self is telling you to wise up this could be you.
Is it possible to have a relationship where....?
Is it possible to have a relationship where the passion lasts forever, I was just having this discussion w/ my bf, I was recalling something I said when we first met of always wanting to find that partner where the passion lasts into old age. I remember how wonder things were when we first got together, he loved the sight of me naked, we would do more sexually, we kissed in public, held hands, we just couldnt get enough of each other. He said this eventually fades of course, but how do you hold onto this..
listen it depends on the relationship you and your other half have.
Personally, I think it is not. I know after anywhere between 6 months to 5 years, I%26#039;m almost always 100% not interested in spending time with my BF anymore, and just trying to find ways to get rid of him to move on to something %26quot;new and exciting%26quot;.
Having an open relationship helps some... so you both see other people when you want to, so the %26quot;new and exciting%26quot; need gets filled. Then, you%26#039;re more like roommates that share everything than lovers, from that point, usually though.
Don%26#039;t take your partner for granted. Don%26#039;t just sit there watching TV until your 80. Get out and do romantic activities together, and keep up the %26quot;spice%26quot; in your love life. Holding onto passion in a relationship is difficult but manageable if you appreciate your partner and love them more every day.
All you said will retain for few months or years after that they fall with something new if yours is small they need to see the bigger
if yours is hairy they need a shaved like that..
nothing is stable in the world.
i%26#039;ve been with the same woman for 15 years... we have a lot of passion... not much sex... :(
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listen it depends on the relationship you and your other half have.
Personally, I think it is not. I know after anywhere between 6 months to 5 years, I%26#039;m almost always 100% not interested in spending time with my BF anymore, and just trying to find ways to get rid of him to move on to something %26quot;new and exciting%26quot;.
Having an open relationship helps some... so you both see other people when you want to, so the %26quot;new and exciting%26quot; need gets filled. Then, you%26#039;re more like roommates that share everything than lovers, from that point, usually though.
Don%26#039;t take your partner for granted. Don%26#039;t just sit there watching TV until your 80. Get out and do romantic activities together, and keep up the %26quot;spice%26quot; in your love life. Holding onto passion in a relationship is difficult but manageable if you appreciate your partner and love them more every day.
All you said will retain for few months or years after that they fall with something new if yours is small they need to see the bigger
if yours is hairy they need a shaved like that..
nothing is stable in the world.
i%26#039;ve been with the same woman for 15 years... we have a lot of passion... not much sex... :(
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What would you do if..?
What would you do if you got everything you wanted it..?
perfect world, amazing boyfriend - girlfriend..
true friends.. that you can depends on..?
I would ask God if I was in heaven.....
No honestly. I would thank Him for this blessing every day I could enjoy the perfect world I lived in. And when everything was gone, I would thank him for letting me live in this perfect world.
But after thanking Him every day i would enjoy life...celebrate it...live it...
I would go back to the docs the next day and have him check that my meds were not causing me to have unrealistic thoughts and out of this planet dreams followed with blackouts
Pinch myself or ask some one to slug me because I know it couldn't be true.
Nothing and no one is perfect.
what dream world do you live in.....
I would be worried,because that stuff doesn't happen.
i would be happy ! ,, wht elz !
but this doesnt happen to me much
enjoy it while it lasts.
i would consider my self lucky.
i would probably be bored. lol. what is life without struggle and hardship?
perfect world, amazing boyfriend - girlfriend..
true friends.. that you can depends on..?
I would ask God if I was in heaven.....
No honestly. I would thank Him for this blessing every day I could enjoy the perfect world I lived in. And when everything was gone, I would thank him for letting me live in this perfect world.
But after thanking Him every day i would enjoy life...celebrate it...live it...
I would go back to the docs the next day and have him check that my meds were not causing me to have unrealistic thoughts and out of this planet dreams followed with blackouts
Pinch myself or ask some one to slug me because I know it couldn't be true.
Nothing and no one is perfect.
what dream world do you live in.....
I would be worried,because that stuff doesn't happen.
i would be happy ! ,, wht elz !
but this doesnt happen to me much
enjoy it while it lasts.
i would consider my self lucky.
i would probably be bored. lol. what is life without struggle and hardship?
Need big time advice ill give 10pts to best answer?
She denied me back then because she choosed to stay with her abusive bf who hits her and treated her bad and also is a drugi. She lost her v to him at 15. I had not seen her since i was 15 i em now 23. I have a good life , i have a lamborghini, have my own house.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. She used to treat me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and she will be there i'm just going to ignore her and bring my gf is this ok?
If any of you are in Los Angeles hit me up i will invite you!.
if you want to get back with her you could bring your gf if u want but just let her know how you really feel and if she still feels the same way unless she is still going with her druggi bf then u could just talk still.
yea its okay but it sounds like you have big resentments toward her you need to let go of....move on you deserve to be happy
Yea its ok to bring your gf,its clear that she is just not that
in to u.
This sounds like it's gonna be a lot of drama! Go to the party, bring your gf, but keep your head on straight about this other girl. She's been on your mind all this time, she's the one that got away and all that, but you two are *strangers* now from going so long without talking. There's no way to know what she's like now, and might be nothing like you remember her or hope she's like. Be friendly but don't gamble away a good life over her
Well done for doing so well for yourself!
I think that its very hard to leave a relationship where there is abuse and drugs involved and it takes time to rehabilitate.
Its your choice and if you want to go to the party and take your new gf that is your choice BUT you must be ready in-case of confrontation and i think your new gf should know what is going on if she doesn't already as she may be the brunt of your x's anger!
Good luck in your decision!
From my own experience when in a abusive relationship we tend to lose our self we forget who our best friend is, are self esteem is stripped from us so we feel that we're not worthy of having a decent guy. I've been in 3 long term relationships all were unhealthy. I'm 43 and finally I found that someone special I've known him since I was 6yrs old. Look give her some time to find out her her best friend one day she will see that there's more to life then unhappiness. The reason that she treats you bad is probably because she feels that she dosen't deserves you. Hope I was helpful. just be your self
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. She used to treat me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and she will be there i'm just going to ignore her and bring my gf is this ok?
If any of you are in Los Angeles hit me up i will invite you!.
if you want to get back with her you could bring your gf if u want but just let her know how you really feel and if she still feels the same way unless she is still going with her druggi bf then u could just talk still.
yea its okay but it sounds like you have big resentments toward her you need to let go of....move on you deserve to be happy
Yea its ok to bring your gf,its clear that she is just not that
in to u.
This sounds like it's gonna be a lot of drama! Go to the party, bring your gf, but keep your head on straight about this other girl. She's been on your mind all this time, she's the one that got away and all that, but you two are *strangers* now from going so long without talking. There's no way to know what she's like now, and might be nothing like you remember her or hope she's like. Be friendly but don't gamble away a good life over her
Well done for doing so well for yourself!
I think that its very hard to leave a relationship where there is abuse and drugs involved and it takes time to rehabilitate.
Its your choice and if you want to go to the party and take your new gf that is your choice BUT you must be ready in-case of confrontation and i think your new gf should know what is going on if she doesn't already as she may be the brunt of your x's anger!
Good luck in your decision!
From my own experience when in a abusive relationship we tend to lose our self we forget who our best friend is, are self esteem is stripped from us so we feel that we're not worthy of having a decent guy. I've been in 3 long term relationships all were unhealthy. I'm 43 and finally I found that someone special I've known him since I was 6yrs old. Look give her some time to find out her her best friend one day she will see that there's more to life then unhappiness. The reason that she treats you bad is probably because she feels that she dosen't deserves you. Hope I was helpful. just be your self
Would you breed with me?
You know how most people say they want to "bang" or "make love" to someone. What would you say if they wanted to "breed" you.
I would say HELL NO.
and HELL yeah
Well I'd be honored...that's what i'd say because if they want to breed with me they must think I'm top notch for creating pretty or smart babies right? LOL But if you asked me I'd have to say no...My husband would be angry if we bred.
I would "breed" all day if i could but not with you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i would breed all day and night, but not with you cause that would be wierd right?
I would say HELL NO.
and HELL yeah
Well I'd be honored...that's what i'd say because if they want to breed with me they must think I'm top notch for creating pretty or smart babies right? LOL But if you asked me I'd have to say no...My husband would be angry if we bred.
I would "breed" all day if i could but not with you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i would breed all day and night, but not with you cause that would be wierd right?
What would you do in this situation?
You just bought a brand new sports car (two seat belts) it's a really rainy day, and you drive past a bus stop. you see 3 people there. as you get closer, you see -your best friend, who has done huge favors for you in the past(life saving ones). - an elderly lady who as you watch collapses, and needs medical attention - and the hottest girl/guy of your dreams who you know is 'the one' just by looking at them. noone near has a phone etc. who would you offer a ride to? what would you do. be honest.
there are no 'wrong answers' but there is a best answer!
I would ask my best friend to drive the elderly lady to the hospital in your car and I'd wait for the bus with "the one."
Aside from my temptation to suggest coming back and getting the rest, I would help the old lady first.
Your best friend will understand. Your soulmate will find you again, because who wouldn't remember the hero at the bus stop that gazed into your eyes, made you fall madly in love with them, then did the right thing and saved the day?
I know I should offer a ride to the old lady but - I wouldn't. I'd give a ride to my friend. Go out for a coffee and such.
I already have "the one" so I wouldn't have even noticed the other guy
;-)
Well, I think you ask your dream person to please keep an eye on this elderly lady, while you take your BF to go phone for help and return.
Stop the car, render aid to the elderly female and wait for paramedics...no one would be getting a ride from me.
I would drive just the old lady to hospital, and go back after if they were still there i would pick them both up
I would go for my friend. I would call 911 for the lady that collapsed, I wouldn't even try to move her, I could make things worse for her.. The rescue will take care of her in a better way. If there is no phone I would ask my friend to rush in the car and we both would look for a telephone to call the emergency for the lady. The guy, well I do not care for guys for me, in your case, you can ask the guy to take care of the old lady while you are going to look for a telephone, and to wait that you will be back. When you are back if he is still there, that means he was compassionate, a good quality, you can talk to him, there is more than one reason for you two to establish a nice conversation and exchange telephone numbers. Done.
there are no 'wrong answers' but there is a best answer!
I would ask my best friend to drive the elderly lady to the hospital in your car and I'd wait for the bus with "the one."
Aside from my temptation to suggest coming back and getting the rest, I would help the old lady first.
Your best friend will understand. Your soulmate will find you again, because who wouldn't remember the hero at the bus stop that gazed into your eyes, made you fall madly in love with them, then did the right thing and saved the day?
I know I should offer a ride to the old lady but - I wouldn't. I'd give a ride to my friend. Go out for a coffee and such.
I already have "the one" so I wouldn't have even noticed the other guy
;-)
Well, I think you ask your dream person to please keep an eye on this elderly lady, while you take your BF to go phone for help and return.
Stop the car, render aid to the elderly female and wait for paramedics...no one would be getting a ride from me.
I would drive just the old lady to hospital, and go back after if they were still there i would pick them both up
I would go for my friend. I would call 911 for the lady that collapsed, I wouldn't even try to move her, I could make things worse for her.. The rescue will take care of her in a better way. If there is no phone I would ask my friend to rush in the car and we both would look for a telephone to call the emergency for the lady. The guy, well I do not care for guys for me, in your case, you can ask the guy to take care of the old lady while you are going to look for a telephone, and to wait that you will be back. When you are back if he is still there, that means he was compassionate, a good quality, you can talk to him, there is more than one reason for you two to establish a nice conversation and exchange telephone numbers. Done.
How to increase my inner circle?
okay so to start off I havent had a girlfriend in years I'm 20 now. And what makes it even worse is that the few friends I've had have moved elsewhere and gotten out of touch. So I need to create a circle again of friends and a girlfriend. So which one should I increase first. Should I make guy friends and then get a girl friend. Or the other way around. I'm kind of in the dilema of that dude in I love you man. Except he has a fiance, where his fiance and her friends talk behind his back about him not having friends so he tries to make friends. So I'd like to hear what ya think.
Build your guild. Bros before hoes (heh...)
Then... you'll be connected to the girl network.
Build your guild. Bros before hoes (heh...)
Then... you'll be connected to the girl network.
Need quick opinions ill give 10pts to best answer?
She denied me back then because she choosed to stay with her abusive bf who hits her and treat her bad and also is a drugi. I had not seen her since i was 15 i em now 23. I have a good life , i have a lamborghini, have my own house.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. She used to treat me bad like ignore me, talk smack. She was still looking for me afterwards. I was upset she lost her v to him, i would have never done that till i put a rock on that finger.
Theres a party going down at my buds house and she will be there i'm just going to ignore her and bring my gf is this ok, and what would you do if you was her in that moment?
If any of you are in Los Angeles hit me up i will invite you!.
Sounds like a loser to me. She probably prefers men who treat her poorly, and was trying to get you to do the same. Also, she probably has a low self-esteem and thinks she deserves it.
If I lived in LA I would go.
That was 8 years ago so it shouldn't matter anymore. Take your girlfriend to the party and if this other girl approaches you it's okay to be civil.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. She used to treat me bad like ignore me, talk smack. She was still looking for me afterwards. I was upset she lost her v to him, i would have never done that till i put a rock on that finger.
Theres a party going down at my buds house and she will be there i'm just going to ignore her and bring my gf is this ok, and what would you do if you was her in that moment?
If any of you are in Los Angeles hit me up i will invite you!.
Sounds like a loser to me. She probably prefers men who treat her poorly, and was trying to get you to do the same. Also, she probably has a low self-esteem and thinks she deserves it.
If I lived in LA I would go.
That was 8 years ago so it shouldn't matter anymore. Take your girlfriend to the party and if this other girl approaches you it's okay to be civil.
Cheating? and how to cure a creeper?
So I have to post this because I don't know what to do and it's a lot to keep locked up:
I'm really close to my brother's fiance and she just told me that so found the chat log on his computer (by accident) of him talking to several girls over spring break. They weren't girls he knew, just webcam picks and chats from sex related sites. She had told him before that she considers this cheating but she was most bothered by his language (which was very creeper-esque) and the fact that he was really having conversations with these girls.
The thing is, she loves him because he's not that kind of guy, he's actually really a sweetheart who is respectful of women. I just don't know what to tell her, I'm used to her coming to me for advice, but I just don't know what to say....
does anyone have any advice? or at least how to cure a second-life-creeper?
Key, the first thing to realize is that you are using denial to justify his actions. You say he loves him because he is not that kind of guy. I got bad news for you...he IS that kind of guy or she would not have found those chat logs to begin with! He is probably just a better BSer/masker than you are giving him credit for. Even psychotic serial killers can pretend to be normal and likable for short periods of time. Why does it seem unreasonable to assume a normal person could not pull it off?
I think your view of this situation is clouded and non-objective for two reasons. First, you are too close to the fianc. Second, you are too close to your brother. You don't want either of them to get hurt and you don't want to see either of them suffer.
Your friend and his fianc need to make some serious choices about their values BEFORE getting married. To ignore this like it never happened or to minimize it like it is no big deal will be a mistake.
men are all disgusting there might be very few who aren't but if he is not actually sticking his pickle into any ones tuna salad then by all means let him do him. At-least he is not stooping to the level most men do and have sex with other people.
You call a guy who talks to high school girls about porn sites a sweetheart? Girl, you got a lot to learn, first off she has every right to know what's going on. It's going to eat you alive (not literally) because you're keeping information that your brother's fiance suspicions are true.
You need to show her the chat logs he's been keeping, again and it'll lose your brother's respect and trust. She knows, you know and it's time for her to let him go and let him do his own thing. One day he'll realize what he's doing is wrong. There's no cure him from his devious ways, because it's under his choice whether or not he'll want to stop.
I'm really close to my brother's fiance and she just told me that so found the chat log on his computer (by accident) of him talking to several girls over spring break. They weren't girls he knew, just webcam picks and chats from sex related sites. She had told him before that she considers this cheating but she was most bothered by his language (which was very creeper-esque) and the fact that he was really having conversations with these girls.
The thing is, she loves him because he's not that kind of guy, he's actually really a sweetheart who is respectful of women. I just don't know what to tell her, I'm used to her coming to me for advice, but I just don't know what to say....
does anyone have any advice? or at least how to cure a second-life-creeper?
Key, the first thing to realize is that you are using denial to justify his actions. You say he loves him because he is not that kind of guy. I got bad news for you...he IS that kind of guy or she would not have found those chat logs to begin with! He is probably just a better BSer/masker than you are giving him credit for. Even psychotic serial killers can pretend to be normal and likable for short periods of time. Why does it seem unreasonable to assume a normal person could not pull it off?
I think your view of this situation is clouded and non-objective for two reasons. First, you are too close to the fianc. Second, you are too close to your brother. You don't want either of them to get hurt and you don't want to see either of them suffer.
Your friend and his fianc need to make some serious choices about their values BEFORE getting married. To ignore this like it never happened or to minimize it like it is no big deal will be a mistake.
men are all disgusting there might be very few who aren't but if he is not actually sticking his pickle into any ones tuna salad then by all means let him do him. At-least he is not stooping to the level most men do and have sex with other people.
You call a guy who talks to high school girls about porn sites a sweetheart? Girl, you got a lot to learn, first off she has every right to know what's going on. It's going to eat you alive (not literally) because you're keeping information that your brother's fiance suspicions are true.
You need to show her the chat logs he's been keeping, again and it'll lose your brother's respect and trust. She knows, you know and it's time for her to let him go and let him do his own thing. One day he'll realize what he's doing is wrong. There's no cure him from his devious ways, because it's under his choice whether or not he'll want to stop.
At what age did you lose your virginity?
Are you a boy or a girl, and how old were you?
Thanks
haha i JUST asked this question ;
female
amost 18 years old
never even kissed a boy, no where close to having sex ! lol
i'm just not ready yet, and haven't found a person i'd want to share what experiance with or like or trust enough ...
i'm still a virgin and am a 19 year old female in college, i say wait as long as you can, and only do it once you've found the right one.
Teenage boy, 16, and still a virgin.
Not planning on opening hells' gates' till I get a job, and set myself up alil' better case a youngin' would pop out of meh love nest.
29-female
27 years old..
13 violent rape
female and i'm in my 30's
when the time is right but dont lose it just bcuz
do it with someone you care about
13,Female:) Wait till your ready...Wish I did.
Still a virgin.
Waiting till 16.
Boy..still virgin..sadly
14 :\
I was 5. And I was molested by my step dad.
ima guy and just about 2 weeks ago im 15
Thanks
haha i JUST asked this question ;
female
amost 18 years old
never even kissed a boy, no where close to having sex ! lol
i'm just not ready yet, and haven't found a person i'd want to share what experiance with or like or trust enough ...
i'm still a virgin and am a 19 year old female in college, i say wait as long as you can, and only do it once you've found the right one.
Teenage boy, 16, and still a virgin.
Not planning on opening hells' gates' till I get a job, and set myself up alil' better case a youngin' would pop out of meh love nest.
29-female
27 years old..
13 violent rape
female and i'm in my 30's
when the time is right but dont lose it just bcuz
do it with someone you care about
13,Female:) Wait till your ready...Wish I did.
Still a virgin.
Waiting till 16.
Boy..still virgin..sadly
14 :\
I was 5. And I was molested by my step dad.
ima guy and just about 2 weeks ago im 15
What would you do if your friend started copying you at everything?
clothes, personality and everthing
and he/she didn't stop even you told him/her..................
would you still be his/her friend?
I have had this same problem before.....Actually still! I have a ex-friend that does or says everything that I do! It is rather annoying! I didn't like it and I still don't like it! I am so glad we are not friends anymore!
and he/she didn't stop even you told him/her..................
would you still be his/her friend?
I have had this same problem before.....Actually still! I have a ex-friend that does or says everything that I do! It is rather annoying! I didn't like it and I still don't like it! I am so glad we are not friends anymore!
How can you distance away from someone?
becasue they were mean to you and he/she was in you class..........
You can keep your distance by just not thinking of a person.
Distance is not just in miles or length.
Ignoring this person who was mean to you. Put them far in thought.
Go about your daily work as usual. Don't glance in their direction.
Don't bring up this matter, don't say their name, don't think so much about what has happened.
Good luck.
You can keep your distance by just not thinking of a person.
Distance is not just in miles or length.
Ignoring this person who was mean to you. Put them far in thought.
Go about your daily work as usual. Don't glance in their direction.
Don't bring up this matter, don't say their name, don't think so much about what has happened.
Good luck.
How do I disable parental GPS tracking on Sprint (family locator)?
So basically, my parents track me every single time i leave the house using Sprint's family locator. Is there any way i can turn this off so they wont be able to track me?
Or does anyone have any ideas of what I can do so i wont be tracked? I dont really like the idea of not bringing my phone with me, cause i DO like calling them to let them know where i am and that im doing fine! I'm 17 by the way. Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks!
Don't take the phone. Tell them you'll be happy to check in with them during nights out when they loosen their grip a little.
im so glad im not in highschool now, just in the past 5 years shits gotten so insane. I have no answer for you just sympathy.
i have no idea :\
im sorry but i kinda feel sorry for you, im 13 and my parents dont try tracking me down
Or does anyone have any ideas of what I can do so i wont be tracked? I dont really like the idea of not bringing my phone with me, cause i DO like calling them to let them know where i am and that im doing fine! I'm 17 by the way. Any thoughts or suggestions? Thanks!
Don't take the phone. Tell them you'll be happy to check in with them during nights out when they loosen their grip a little.
im so glad im not in highschool now, just in the past 5 years shits gotten so insane. I have no answer for you just sympathy.
i have no idea :\
im sorry but i kinda feel sorry for you, im 13 and my parents dont try tracking me down
How am I suppose to find a girlfriend who
I Hate being 6"1.5" I HATE IT. One of the reasons why I hate it is because I know I'll never get to have a girlfriend that is taller than me. THAT IS WHAT I WANT!!!!!! I WANT TO BE SHORTER THAN ME GIRLFRIEND, NOT TALLER!!! I always see guys with taller girlfriends and I get really upset at myself because I know I will NEVER get to experience that. I get so upset that I banG my head against the wall WHEN i GET HOME. F#ck God for making me this tall. I HATE BEING THIS TALL!!! IT SUCKS TO BE THIS TALL!!! I HATE IT!!! I get so upset that I just feel like ending my life. YES! That is how be I want to have a girlfriend that is taller than me. But at 6'1.5 I know that this is imposable because women are much, much,much, Much, much, much, much sorter than 6;1.5" I HATE BEING 6'1.5"
Why did I have to be this tall and why do girls have to be so short? I get so upset when I see these guys who are shorter. THEY ACTUALLY HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO DATE A WOMAN TALLER THAN THEM! I DON'T HAVE THAT OPPORTUNITY. Don't get into the whole "women like tall guys" crap, because that's not what this is about. I DO see shorter guys with tall beautiful women. They DO HAVE an opportunity to date someone who's taller. This is going to consume me. I already look at pictures of tall girls for hours online. I always imagine myself being with one of those really tall women you just don't see everyday. I just don't understand why girls have to be biologically shorter than me. It Man, if I could die right now and come back as a shorter person I, I would just be so very happy. I would not longer be an icky "Tall" guy. I would be able to look up at my gilfriend with pride and honor. Guess that will never happen.:(
sHOULD i JUST DIE NOW?
Oh, I hate being 6'1.5"!
I'm a woman who is 6'1". I know women taller than both of this. This is a strange post. Is this a joke?
By the way, you are not that tall for a guy. I know tons of men taller than you even some 6'6" and taller. Maybe you need to get out more and realize that your height is normal.
Women like to date men who are taller than them. Haven't met one who preferred it the other way so chill out. :)
girls dont like being taller than the guy most the time.
So even if you were shorter you would still be S.O.L
Besides theirs tall *** girls out there, you could have AIDS now or something, quit whining.
seek proffessional help i think your height has become an obsession btw my friend is 6'2 and she plays volley ball and i also have a cousin that is 6'5 which is rare but hey its all genes right?
why hate on being tall? my girlfriend is 5'4 im 5'7
girls do like tall guys, you just gott look in the right place
Why did I have to be this tall and why do girls have to be so short? I get so upset when I see these guys who are shorter. THEY ACTUALLY HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO DATE A WOMAN TALLER THAN THEM! I DON'T HAVE THAT OPPORTUNITY. Don't get into the whole "women like tall guys" crap, because that's not what this is about. I DO see shorter guys with tall beautiful women. They DO HAVE an opportunity to date someone who's taller. This is going to consume me. I already look at pictures of tall girls for hours online. I always imagine myself being with one of those really tall women you just don't see everyday. I just don't understand why girls have to be biologically shorter than me. It Man, if I could die right now and come back as a shorter person I, I would just be so very happy. I would not longer be an icky "Tall" guy. I would be able to look up at my gilfriend with pride and honor. Guess that will never happen.:(
sHOULD i JUST DIE NOW?
Oh, I hate being 6'1.5"!
I'm a woman who is 6'1". I know women taller than both of this. This is a strange post. Is this a joke?
By the way, you are not that tall for a guy. I know tons of men taller than you even some 6'6" and taller. Maybe you need to get out more and realize that your height is normal.
Women like to date men who are taller than them. Haven't met one who preferred it the other way so chill out. :)
girls dont like being taller than the guy most the time.
So even if you were shorter you would still be S.O.L
Besides theirs tall *** girls out there, you could have AIDS now or something, quit whining.
seek proffessional help i think your height has become an obsession btw my friend is 6'2 and she plays volley ball and i also have a cousin that is 6'5 which is rare but hey its all genes right?
why hate on being tall? my girlfriend is 5'4 im 5'7
girls do like tall guys, you just gott look in the right place
Guys,dating, peopleeee..................?
how do you know when a guy likes you?
he should want to talk to you a lot like txt you 24/7 or im, he should be happier when you are around, and if you have a fb or myspace or something like that he will probably comment on your pics and status updates and things like that. that's what i do when i like a girl.
drops hints. flirts. uhhhhh....compliments you on your eyes or something.......blushes wehn he does something stupid and you laugh.....
If a guy really LIKES you....YOU WILL KNOW
You ask him. Then you know for sure.
he should want to talk to you a lot like txt you 24/7 or im, he should be happier when you are around, and if you have a fb or myspace or something like that he will probably comment on your pics and status updates and things like that. that's what i do when i like a girl.
drops hints. flirts. uhhhhh....compliments you on your eyes or something.......blushes wehn he does something stupid and you laugh.....
If a guy really LIKES you....YOU WILL KNOW
You ask him. Then you know for sure.
What is my husbands problem?
He is 44,im 40 and we have been happily married 18 yrs..We have always gotten along great,rarely fight,love each other more then anything,totally devoted to each other and our marriage and we both are still very affectionate with each other with lots of hugs,kisses and cuddling...During our entire marriage i am the 1 who has initiated most of the time and yea he has initiated too but me way more then him...Last yr we went 8 months without having sex from january to february because i was waiting for him to initiate...Well anyways finally in october 2008 i broke down and initiate but after that we only have had sex like 4 or 5 times and now since late february we havent done anything and as usual i am waiting to see if he will initiate but he hasnt yet...I have asked him if he ever wants to have sex and he says he of course but just wont initiate and when i ask him why he hasnt he says to me "why havent you"..He definelelty can still get erections,he isnt depressed and doesnt have any stress in his life,his job is going great,he isnt taking and medications,he ISNT cheating...He is strongly against infidelity plus he wouldnt hurt me or our marriage like that and like i said he doesnt and never did have erection problems because when i am laying in his arms he gets hard in minutes so i know he is still definetely attracted to me and says so...I have asked him a few times if he is bored with our sex life and he has said no....I am so sick of talking to him about this...In the past i have told him numerous times that he should intiate more often and he said he would but nothing has changed....Since the last time we had sex in late february i have asked him a few times...'Havent you wanted to have sex" and he says "yea of course" but yet doesnt initiate so i guess he really doesnt want to cause i figure if he did then he would just initiate..I havent changed in appearnce i have always been heavy ever since i was around 17 and now i am 40 BUT he met me heavy,married me heavy and it has never bothered him 1 bit....Like i said when i ask him why he doesnt initiate he says back to me "why havent you"...I am so tired of talking to him about this...I'm thru talking cause it doesnt help.
When i do initate he is always ready and very willing and has never turned me down.
Like i said he has initiate during our marriage but its been me most of the time but he doesnt even initiate at all anymore and no he isnt cheating so dont even go there he loves me more then anything and would never hurt me or our marriage that way plus i know his views on cheating..He is totally against infidelity
He doesnt have to worry about rejection because i have never said no to him because i love making love with him
This sounds funny to me. Is there a possibility that you are wrong in your assumptions of your husband? Something isn't right or he would be initiating sex more often. Is there communication problems between the two of you? Is it possible you have rejected him, and you don't remember? I would try again to try and find out what the problem is. If he can get an erection easily than the problem obviously isn't a physical one. Does he have any physical problems that would interfere with his libido? I would sit your husband down and have a serious talk with him in regards to your sex life. Good luck!
hard to say for sure - if I were you I would keep on initiating and not dwell on it too much.
When i do initate he is always ready and very willing and has never turned me down.
Like i said he has initiate during our marriage but its been me most of the time but he doesnt even initiate at all anymore and no he isnt cheating so dont even go there he loves me more then anything and would never hurt me or our marriage that way plus i know his views on cheating..He is totally against infidelity
He doesnt have to worry about rejection because i have never said no to him because i love making love with him
This sounds funny to me. Is there a possibility that you are wrong in your assumptions of your husband? Something isn't right or he would be initiating sex more often. Is there communication problems between the two of you? Is it possible you have rejected him, and you don't remember? I would try again to try and find out what the problem is. If he can get an erection easily than the problem obviously isn't a physical one. Does he have any physical problems that would interfere with his libido? I would sit your husband down and have a serious talk with him in regards to your sex life. Good luck!
hard to say for sure - if I were you I would keep on initiating and not dwell on it too much.
What should i get my boyfriend for his birthday?
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and his birthday is in May. I have looked all over the internet for interesting things to get him but everything seems too extravagent or not original at all or just something that is not really him. He will be turning 15. He is vegetarian and really into screamo music and he likes punk music too. He likes theatre and is not really into sports that much. can anyone help me think of somehting thoughtful and original for him because i have picked my brain and cant seem to think of anything good! Thanks!
The best thing to get him is ur company a gift is a bonus but if he has a video game system like a xbox 360 or ps3 get him guitar hero or rock band.serprise him with a kiss and a hug spend as much time u can with him. That is the best thing I no he will like that. I'm ganna be 16 in may and that's wat I want from my girl mostly all bf's want 2 spend time wit there girl on there bday. good luck
Are there any theatre events going on around your town? Maybe get some tickets to that and then a t-shirt of one of his favorite bands (try Hot Topic). Make the gift fun! And then write him a nice card saying how much you care about him, wrap the presents, and give them to him!
Take him to a play at some out of the way theatre - even an amateur affair. You'll both feel so grown-up. You could go out after for sushi just like real people after the show.
The best thing to get him is ur company a gift is a bonus but if he has a video game system like a xbox 360 or ps3 get him guitar hero or rock band.serprise him with a kiss and a hug spend as much time u can with him. That is the best thing I no he will like that. I'm ganna be 16 in may and that's wat I want from my girl mostly all bf's want 2 spend time wit there girl on there bday. good luck
Are there any theatre events going on around your town? Maybe get some tickets to that and then a t-shirt of one of his favorite bands (try Hot Topic). Make the gift fun! And then write him a nice card saying how much you care about him, wrap the presents, and give them to him!
Take him to a play at some out of the way theatre - even an amateur affair. You'll both feel so grown-up. You could go out after for sushi just like real people after the show.
Women and the waiting game..?
Ok so the girl that I'm interested in is (lately) playing the waiting game with me (with the phone, email etc.). She NEVER use to do that before, and even though we aren't offically a couple would it be alright if I dated other girls until she comes around. Or should I wait for her? I don't feel its right for me to wait around like this constantly so I figured I go out and date to popentially meet someone better, what do you think?
Also I was wondering if women like playing the waiting game and other mind games does that mean women like it if men do it to them too (etc, the waiting game, the playing hard to get game)? Serious answers only. Thanks :D
Your problem here is assuming that all women are alike. I, personally, would hate it if a guy a) slept around while still acting as though he was interested or b) tried to play mind games with me. (That said, I don't do it to them either).
Keeping in mind that communication is the best foundation for a relationship, you should probably call her and ask if there's a reason she's been putting off responding to you. Possibly there's a problem she hasn't told you about. If there isn't, let her know that the waiting is really bothering you, and if she doesn't want to be fully and whole-heartedly in a relationship, you're going to bugger off.
As long as you are not exclusive than you don't owe her anything. However, if you really like this girl than I would be careful how you do it. If she thinks there is more to your relationship than what you are saying than she is going to be very angry with you. Keep in mind that it is a possibility that you might loose her. Another possibility is that she will come running back to you. Good luck!
Be up front and ask. Give her a call and see what level you are on. If it's a friend level, then say "see ya later." I don't know of anyone that plays these games but if somebody wants to try one on me...I move on.
It means they don't really care about you anyway.
Also I was wondering if women like playing the waiting game and other mind games does that mean women like it if men do it to them too (etc, the waiting game, the playing hard to get game)? Serious answers only. Thanks :D
Your problem here is assuming that all women are alike. I, personally, would hate it if a guy a) slept around while still acting as though he was interested or b) tried to play mind games with me. (That said, I don't do it to them either).
Keeping in mind that communication is the best foundation for a relationship, you should probably call her and ask if there's a reason she's been putting off responding to you. Possibly there's a problem she hasn't told you about. If there isn't, let her know that the waiting is really bothering you, and if she doesn't want to be fully and whole-heartedly in a relationship, you're going to bugger off.
As long as you are not exclusive than you don't owe her anything. However, if you really like this girl than I would be careful how you do it. If she thinks there is more to your relationship than what you are saying than she is going to be very angry with you. Keep in mind that it is a possibility that you might loose her. Another possibility is that she will come running back to you. Good luck!
Be up front and ask. Give her a call and see what level you are on. If it's a friend level, then say "see ya later." I don't know of anyone that plays these games but if somebody wants to try one on me...I move on.
It means they don't really care about you anyway.
Domestic violence assignment, due 2morow. 10 points?
Identify at least 2 strategies young people can use to help them overcome domestic violence.
10 points to most helpful.
One of the most important thing you can do to overcome domestic violence is to contact your local Domestic Violence agency. They can, for the most part, help you with shelter, food, counseling, and anything else you might need help with.
Making a plan is also important because when you are in a crisis situation, you need to have a plan to keep you safe.
Educating yourself, so you can be more independent is also important, so you won't have to rely on your significant other to support you.
Individual counseling and support groups can help you find out why you were in the relationship to begin with. This is especially helpful for women who keep getting into abusive relationships. Support groups can help you develop self esteem and knowledge, so you don't feel like you are the only one going through this difficult time.
Books, books, books. Educating yourself about abuse and domestic violence is the key to ending the cycle of abuse that plagues many women.
Strategy 1 - You have to be educated about violence. Understand different types of violence, verbal, physical...
Having an understanding of violence will help you identify it.
Strategy 2 - You have to know what to do if you or anyone you know is dealing with domestic violence...
Who you can talk to, Who can help you, What can be done about it.
10 points to most helpful.
One of the most important thing you can do to overcome domestic violence is to contact your local Domestic Violence agency. They can, for the most part, help you with shelter, food, counseling, and anything else you might need help with.
Making a plan is also important because when you are in a crisis situation, you need to have a plan to keep you safe.
Educating yourself, so you can be more independent is also important, so you won't have to rely on your significant other to support you.
Individual counseling and support groups can help you find out why you were in the relationship to begin with. This is especially helpful for women who keep getting into abusive relationships. Support groups can help you develop self esteem and knowledge, so you don't feel like you are the only one going through this difficult time.
Books, books, books. Educating yourself about abuse and domestic violence is the key to ending the cycle of abuse that plagues many women.
Strategy 1 - You have to be educated about violence. Understand different types of violence, verbal, physical...
Having an understanding of violence will help you identify it.
Strategy 2 - You have to know what to do if you or anyone you know is dealing with domestic violence...
Who you can talk to, Who can help you, What can be done about it.
How to make my boyfriend fall in love with me?
i want my boyfriend fall in love with me. he is divorced and got 3 kids. he did not introduce me yet to his children. i feel he is hiding me to them. am i feel hurt. we have sex everytime we see each other. i feel i am a sex toy to him. but he said i am more than a girl friend to him.
Lighten up on the sex and see if he still hangs around. Do it less frequently and try to spend quality time with him in other ways. If he gets angry or wants nothing to do with you, you'll have your answer. If not, then maybe you can build a relationship and eventually meet his kids. Don't let yourself get sucked into a bad relationship because you're insecure. Respect yourself. Watch his actions, not just his words.
slow the sex down a notch. Plus you can't make him fall for you.
Lighten up on the sex and see if he still hangs around. Do it less frequently and try to spend quality time with him in other ways. If he gets angry or wants nothing to do with you, you'll have your answer. If not, then maybe you can build a relationship and eventually meet his kids. Don't let yourself get sucked into a bad relationship because you're insecure. Respect yourself. Watch his actions, not just his words.
slow the sex down a notch. Plus you can't make him fall for you.
Is my professor just being friendly or something more?
Sorry this is long, but the background is important: So I have this professor who is well liked by all, a great teacher, very funny, accomplished, good looking etc so I obviously respect him as a teacher and as an individual. I guess I have a little crush on him. He is such an inspiring individual and has all the qualities I look for in a man.
He is, however 12 years older than me and is married with kids so he is clearly off limits. He seems to treat me differently from other students though, and I don't know if it's because I want to see it that way, or if he really likes me. For example, during class he spends way more time looking at me than anyone else, often making eye contact with me for 10 seconds at a time, and always looks at me first after making a joke (to see if I'm laughing?). People tell me I am good looking so I guess this isn't too surprising? After class I have gone to ask him questions a few times, and he usually ends up asking me questions about myself, on a few occasions these after-class chats have lasted 1 1/2 hours. He never misses an opportunity to point out what we have in common, or to suggest we chat again soon. I always get A's in his class, although I have heard he never gives A's and is a very tough grader. I am a good student so this is also not too surprising.
But then the other day after talking to him about class he squeezed my arm a few times as I turned to walk away. I think I know the difference between a friendly squeeze and a squeeze that means something more. This squeeze had "purpose", not gentle but not painful. He then looked me in the eye and smiled...There were other students around but no one noticed because he walked behind me as he did this, blocking their view. Should this just be interpreted as a friendly gesture? Or something more? There are many more examples but I don't want to waste anyone's time.
I would never initiate anything not only because he is clearly off-limits (I have nothing against teacher-student relationships, it's him being married that I would have a problem with), but also because I am bad at reading people, and am not very flirty. But I would just like to know what I should make of his treatment of me. Any advice would be very appreciated!
It does sound like you're very curious to know his feelings for you, while saying that he's off-limits. It sounds like a fantasy for him has developed in your mind, and since you haven't been forced to choose between your values towards marriage and your deep desire for him, you're stuck in limbo. Meanwhile, maybe you are wondering if his marriage is unhappy, etc?
So my question for you: what would you do if he DOES have amorous feelings for you? Forget it and move on? Consider a relationship with him? Not sure at all?
If you've decided that you would just leave it alone & reject his offer to something more than a student-professor relationship, then why does it matter if his touch is more than friendly?
It sounds like you want it to be romantic, and I see where you are coming from. If that is the case - if you want him to have feelings for you - you do know that a relationship with a professor can have consequences for his career, reputation, etc? (aside from his marital status) The university may frown upon and may even dismiss him for this. If you truly care for him, keep this in the front of your mind as you go about all your interaction with him. If you really like him, keep his best interests at heart and don't do anything that would jeopardize his career & reputation.
As for the squeeze... based on the way you describe it, it sounds like he didn't want others to see it, but he did it in such a way that if they did see it, he could have explained it by saying it was just friendly.
I agree with love, be very very careful about this. Your professor is way out of line. I know it might be tough but I would suggest totally cutting down on the interactions with him before he gets the wrong idea and puts you in a terrible position. Good luck.
ID SAY GO FOR IT CAUSE 12 YEARS ISNT THAT BAD
BUT HES MARRIED --- AND HAS KIDS SO THATS TO BAD
IM SORRY BUT KEEP ME UPDATED OKAY
TO SEE IF HES GETTING MORE PHYSICAL
I'll just give it to you straight. You keep reiterating that he's "clearly off-limits," but I'm getting the vibe that you'd pursue it if he did. This could get dangerous, considering his family. I would kind of cool off and stop making as much eye contact. Remove yourself from unnecessary situations when you're alone together. If you have a legitimate question that needs to be answered, that's one thing. Otherwise, considering your attraction to him and his apparent fondness for you, I'd lay off. It could get nasty.
He is, however 12 years older than me and is married with kids so he is clearly off limits. He seems to treat me differently from other students though, and I don't know if it's because I want to see it that way, or if he really likes me. For example, during class he spends way more time looking at me than anyone else, often making eye contact with me for 10 seconds at a time, and always looks at me first after making a joke (to see if I'm laughing?). People tell me I am good looking so I guess this isn't too surprising? After class I have gone to ask him questions a few times, and he usually ends up asking me questions about myself, on a few occasions these after-class chats have lasted 1 1/2 hours. He never misses an opportunity to point out what we have in common, or to suggest we chat again soon. I always get A's in his class, although I have heard he never gives A's and is a very tough grader. I am a good student so this is also not too surprising.
But then the other day after talking to him about class he squeezed my arm a few times as I turned to walk away. I think I know the difference between a friendly squeeze and a squeeze that means something more. This squeeze had "purpose", not gentle but not painful. He then looked me in the eye and smiled...There were other students around but no one noticed because he walked behind me as he did this, blocking their view. Should this just be interpreted as a friendly gesture? Or something more? There are many more examples but I don't want to waste anyone's time.
I would never initiate anything not only because he is clearly off-limits (I have nothing against teacher-student relationships, it's him being married that I would have a problem with), but also because I am bad at reading people, and am not very flirty. But I would just like to know what I should make of his treatment of me. Any advice would be very appreciated!
It does sound like you're very curious to know his feelings for you, while saying that he's off-limits. It sounds like a fantasy for him has developed in your mind, and since you haven't been forced to choose between your values towards marriage and your deep desire for him, you're stuck in limbo. Meanwhile, maybe you are wondering if his marriage is unhappy, etc?
So my question for you: what would you do if he DOES have amorous feelings for you? Forget it and move on? Consider a relationship with him? Not sure at all?
If you've decided that you would just leave it alone & reject his offer to something more than a student-professor relationship, then why does it matter if his touch is more than friendly?
It sounds like you want it to be romantic, and I see where you are coming from. If that is the case - if you want him to have feelings for you - you do know that a relationship with a professor can have consequences for his career, reputation, etc? (aside from his marital status) The university may frown upon and may even dismiss him for this. If you truly care for him, keep this in the front of your mind as you go about all your interaction with him. If you really like him, keep his best interests at heart and don't do anything that would jeopardize his career & reputation.
As for the squeeze... based on the way you describe it, it sounds like he didn't want others to see it, but he did it in such a way that if they did see it, he could have explained it by saying it was just friendly.
I agree with love, be very very careful about this. Your professor is way out of line. I know it might be tough but I would suggest totally cutting down on the interactions with him before he gets the wrong idea and puts you in a terrible position. Good luck.
ID SAY GO FOR IT CAUSE 12 YEARS ISNT THAT BAD
BUT HES MARRIED --- AND HAS KIDS SO THATS TO BAD
IM SORRY BUT KEEP ME UPDATED OKAY
TO SEE IF HES GETTING MORE PHYSICAL
I'll just give it to you straight. You keep reiterating that he's "clearly off-limits," but I'm getting the vibe that you'd pursue it if he did. This could get dangerous, considering his family. I would kind of cool off and stop making as much eye contact. Remove yourself from unnecessary situations when you're alone together. If you have a legitimate question that needs to be answered, that's one thing. Otherwise, considering your attraction to him and his apparent fondness for you, I'd lay off. It could get nasty.
How do people that have babies have sex?
If you have a newborn, how do you manage to have sex? I mean, if you are sleeping with the baby or in the same room, do people just opt out of having sex once they have a baby?
Me and my husband had sex when our little one was asleep. My baby slept all night long and still does.. I am just lucky..
Of courses!
It's totally Natural!
but you a are a "vertal murtal"
be carefull!
when we had our first baby we usually had sex in the living room. when the second came she went straight to her room!!!
Me and my husband had sex when our little one was asleep. My baby slept all night long and still does.. I am just lucky..
Of courses!
It's totally Natural!
but you a are a "vertal murtal"
be carefull!
when we had our first baby we usually had sex in the living room. when the second came she went straight to her room!!!
What do you think people think about you?
that im like jekyll and hyde. sometimes i can be happy, bouncy and giggly me and most other times a miserable b****.
I am not sure.
I think what really matters is how I think of myself. If I am feeling full of live, energetic and positive I think that people will see a happy me. If I am feeling dumpy like the world is coming to end, I think people will run the other way.
Why do you care? U only need opinion of ur friends and people close to you! "U may think about me whatever u want - I don't think about u at all" (Aristotel)
"If u want to have no critisism, don't do anything, don't go anywhere and be no1!"
Hope it helps:)
i'm not sure
some of my friends say i'm cute (i'm guessing like adorable cute), and i guess they think that i'm a crazy, fun, understanding, trustworthy, loving person?...not too sure though
why does it matter? i dont give a **** what people think about me
its what i think about myself
and what i can do! then people will see me for what i see in myself.
at first ppl think i'm preppy and stuck up, but once they are in trouble or need advice, they see i'm open minded and very caring.
Hopefully that I am a decent human being but my friends know who I am anyway and as for anyone else if they dont like me then its their problem not mine.
i dont know and really dont care to be honest i am who i am and if they dont like it they can stay away from me am not gonna force anyone to be my friend or to like me
Well, people say I'm funny; that I make them laugh!!!! And, hopefully, they think I'm a good person.
dont care neither should yooooo!!!
I am not sure.
I think what really matters is how I think of myself. If I am feeling full of live, energetic and positive I think that people will see a happy me. If I am feeling dumpy like the world is coming to end, I think people will run the other way.
Why do you care? U only need opinion of ur friends and people close to you! "U may think about me whatever u want - I don't think about u at all" (Aristotel)
"If u want to have no critisism, don't do anything, don't go anywhere and be no1!"
Hope it helps:)
i'm not sure
some of my friends say i'm cute (i'm guessing like adorable cute), and i guess they think that i'm a crazy, fun, understanding, trustworthy, loving person?...not too sure though
why does it matter? i dont give a **** what people think about me
its what i think about myself
and what i can do! then people will see me for what i see in myself.
at first ppl think i'm preppy and stuck up, but once they are in trouble or need advice, they see i'm open minded and very caring.
Hopefully that I am a decent human being but my friends know who I am anyway and as for anyone else if they dont like me then its their problem not mine.
i dont know and really dont care to be honest i am who i am and if they dont like it they can stay away from me am not gonna force anyone to be my friend or to like me
Well, people say I'm funny; that I make them laugh!!!! And, hopefully, they think I'm a good person.
dont care neither should yooooo!!!
How to accept his decision?
I'm in love with him and he loves me. He says "I'm not good for you or anyone right now", I'm not asking advice on how to win him over, it's not going to happen. How do I find a positive place in my heart to accept that i will never see how this could have been?
hun not to be rude
but he just isnt that into you
if you love someone you be them no matter what
it will take time but accept it and move on
be strong!!
and thank you for not being those stupid girls saying how do i make a guy with me??
your smart and im very sorry you are in this kind of situation
it will be ok
hun not to be rude
but he just isnt that into you
if you love someone you be them no matter what
it will take time but accept it and move on
be strong!!
and thank you for not being those stupid girls saying how do i make a guy with me??
your smart and im very sorry you are in this kind of situation
it will be ok
Does it matter? Guys or Girls?
All my life i felt like i got on way better with guys, when i would hang out with girls they would just do the bitchyiest meanest things, i like to motobike ride, drink, much around and do like rough things, here's the problem im currentley in a relationship and have been for a long time i don't have any friends cause i dont like hanging around girls but i can't have guy friends cause my bf will kill me, and heres another problem if i am seen hanging around any guy friends ppl think the worst and start spreading rumors....wat do i do?
i have the same problem almost
but his best friends are my good friends
so everything works out
if your bf is understanding then he will let you hang out with ur friends whether they are girls or guys
trust is very important in a relationship
try to find some girls that like the same things you do,
you shouldnt necessarily go against your boy's wishes because if it was flipped you probably wouldn't want him to hang with girls
i have the same problem almost
but his best friends are my good friends
so everything works out
if your bf is understanding then he will let you hang out with ur friends whether they are girls or guys
trust is very important in a relationship
try to find some girls that like the same things you do,
you shouldnt necessarily go against your boy's wishes because if it was flipped you probably wouldn't want him to hang with girls
I need advice here plz read i
She denied me back then because she choosed to stay with her abusive bf who hits her and treated her bad and also is a drugi. She lost her v to him at 15. I had not seen her since i was 15 i em now 23. I have a good life , i have a lamborghini, have my own house.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. Note that she treated me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and word is she will be there.
The question is what would you do if you were her in that moment?, and should i approach her or just ignore her and have my bud say you remember him, and no i don't like her no more.
i can tell you still like her seeing as your very worried about what she is gonan think of you and how you should approach her.
be the bigger person and say hi to her, flirt with her of coarsee but if she treats you bad like she used to, dont give her any more of your attention.
if she denied you before, and she chose to stay with her loser of a boyfriend i would deny her. she was stupid enough to chose him over you and she played you. she just wanted you for her sexual needs, and she threw you in the trash.
i wouldnt want someone like that.
I believe that you still have feelings for her. You just don't want to admit to them, because you don't want to run that risk of liking her and wanting to be with her all over again. Cause if you really didn't like her any more you wouldn't care how to approach her. But the answer that I am going to give you is talk her. You might have a good time just catching up. But just don't expect to much, because chances are that she is still with the same guy and she defends him because she loves him. And that won't change until she's ready for it to change.
Well, I cannot answer your first question because I am not her and would not be in the abusive relationship she is in.
What would be the point in approaching her? She has clearly made her choice. She is not going to leave her boyfriend for you. At the party, if she is there, act polite don ignore her if she talks to you and don bring up anything that happened between the two of you in the past, what would be the point?
You can be polite to strangers so do the same to her, keep it very casual.
P.s. We had kissed many times, and had sex so she said she was into me but loved her loser bf.
I had not talked to her ever since i changed my #. Note that she treated me bad like ignore me, talk smack like i'm just hating on her. So we stopped talking and got into a fight.
I really want to see her face when she sees me. theres this big party going down this week at my buds house and word is she will be there.
The question is what would you do if you were her in that moment?, and should i approach her or just ignore her and have my bud say you remember him, and no i don't like her no more.
i can tell you still like her seeing as your very worried about what she is gonan think of you and how you should approach her.
be the bigger person and say hi to her, flirt with her of coarsee but if she treats you bad like she used to, dont give her any more of your attention.
if she denied you before, and she chose to stay with her loser of a boyfriend i would deny her. she was stupid enough to chose him over you and she played you. she just wanted you for her sexual needs, and she threw you in the trash.
i wouldnt want someone like that.
I believe that you still have feelings for her. You just don't want to admit to them, because you don't want to run that risk of liking her and wanting to be with her all over again. Cause if you really didn't like her any more you wouldn't care how to approach her. But the answer that I am going to give you is talk her. You might have a good time just catching up. But just don't expect to much, because chances are that she is still with the same guy and she defends him because she loves him. And that won't change until she's ready for it to change.
Well, I cannot answer your first question because I am not her and would not be in the abusive relationship she is in.
What would be the point in approaching her? She has clearly made her choice. She is not going to leave her boyfriend for you. At the party, if she is there, act polite don ignore her if she talks to you and don bring up anything that happened between the two of you in the past, what would be the point?
You can be polite to strangers so do the same to her, keep it very casual.
Where do I go from here?
I want to find my biological father. I don't know his name, and no one in my family will talk about him. And for some reason they don't have him on my birth certificate. All I have is an old photo of him and my mom.
What can I do to find him?
Google your moms name and see what comes up
What can I do to find him?
Google your moms name and see what comes up
HELP!! UGH Y IS HE ACTING LIKE THIS?
okay so theres this guy who at first we were soo into eachother and i really fell for him but then all of a sudden he was like maybe its best if we dont tlk and then two days later hes like hi i dont know wat todo or if i should tlk to him or anything its like he hurt me alot by wat he did but i still like himm alot i miss him so much id know wat to do plz HELP!!!
It could be a lot of things, I'm afraid. Maybe he heard a bad rumour about you or something like that, maybe you dated one of his friends and he didn't want to get into it? I wish I could help, but it really depends on the context. Also, maybe he told his parents about you or something and he isn't allowed to be in a relationship? I would go for the direct confrontation, if you can, just ask him why he's been acting weird. Hope it works out!
You'll forget about him eventually, these type of things are your growing pains....... in a way. Gotta go thru it. Spend some time with your friends, or doing something you totally enjoy, or go to the mall. good luck
you can talk to him if you want just don't let him hurt you or take advantage of you :)
well
he may have just been confused
you may have inadvertently been giving him the wrong signals
Maybe he said this because he liked antoher girl while liking you.
but then he moved on and liked you again.
ehhh let him go!
he's not worth it!
you can definately find someone better [:
He has a multiple personality disorder...get over that loser and find you a nice guy...they're there...i think i might have found one...lol
if he ignores you or doent want to talk do the same maybe he will like you again
Looks like he has found a new soul buddy.Move on.
Just keep talking to him
Simple...He's not in to you. Move on
idk..
maybe he was being SARCASTIC
or just pulling ur strings...
It could be a lot of things, I'm afraid. Maybe he heard a bad rumour about you or something like that, maybe you dated one of his friends and he didn't want to get into it? I wish I could help, but it really depends on the context. Also, maybe he told his parents about you or something and he isn't allowed to be in a relationship? I would go for the direct confrontation, if you can, just ask him why he's been acting weird. Hope it works out!
You'll forget about him eventually, these type of things are your growing pains....... in a way. Gotta go thru it. Spend some time with your friends, or doing something you totally enjoy, or go to the mall. good luck
you can talk to him if you want just don't let him hurt you or take advantage of you :)
well
he may have just been confused
you may have inadvertently been giving him the wrong signals
Maybe he said this because he liked antoher girl while liking you.
but then he moved on and liked you again.
ehhh let him go!
he's not worth it!
you can definately find someone better [:
He has a multiple personality disorder...get over that loser and find you a nice guy...they're there...i think i might have found one...lol
if he ignores you or doent want to talk do the same maybe he will like you again
Looks like he has found a new soul buddy.Move on.
Just keep talking to him
Simple...He's not in to you. Move on
idk..
maybe he was being SARCASTIC
or just pulling ur strings...
Friday, March 27, 2009
How can I find out what I am?
I know I'm african american but I want to know what generation I am and what else I may have in me like indian or something and I need links to websites that may help me and I want a website that I don't have to pay for. Please don't give me a link to www.ancestry.com because I have tried it before.
My mother has a degree in genealogy. She spent 13 years looking up our family. My best advice to you, being African American, is to start birth and death records ( your public library, or census beurea ) to find out where each person was born. Start with your parents and work your way back. Only do one side at a time. As you dig farther back some records may not be available, depending on how far you go. Pay attention to name changes, weddings, births, etc. That should get you started. Being African American, it will get harder the farther back you go. Use surname websites (last name) to see the history of the family name as a whole. Not individual people. Please ask your librarian for help.
THe first thing you need to do is ask your relatives, and then if that didn't/doesn't help, you can go to google and type in the origin of your last name or whatever little peice of info. you get from family.
Ask family members on both sides or anyone that knows anything about you. Start with that.
Ask your parents. THEY should know.
My mother has a degree in genealogy. She spent 13 years looking up our family. My best advice to you, being African American, is to start birth and death records ( your public library, or census beurea ) to find out where each person was born. Start with your parents and work your way back. Only do one side at a time. As you dig farther back some records may not be available, depending on how far you go. Pay attention to name changes, weddings, births, etc. That should get you started. Being African American, it will get harder the farther back you go. Use surname websites (last name) to see the history of the family name as a whole. Not individual people. Please ask your librarian for help.
THe first thing you need to do is ask your relatives, and then if that didn't/doesn't help, you can go to google and type in the origin of your last name or whatever little peice of info. you get from family.
Ask family members on both sides or anyone that knows anything about you. Start with that.
Ask your parents. THEY should know.
Girls, a little help on this one?
Okay well girls seem to date me just to be dirty with me or have sex,all they go out with me is(I don't Wanna be arrogant)because they say I look hot and things like that. Some of the girls I have dated say that I am really nice and I have a cool personality, but I don't know...I'm dating this girl and I love her and she has said she loves me and were really affectionate together and we might have sex soon but I'm not sure if she is another girl like the rest or a girl that really wants a relationship?and if It helps we have alot in common oh and we agreed on to have sex but she has lately become more aroused weere together
Well, no girl can resist a good-looking guy--especially when he has the whole package (personality, brains, manners, etc.).
She sounds like a pretty good girl. Even though she's starting to get aroused when you're together, that just means she's connecting with you; emotionally AND physically.
Don't be afraid to take the next step with her. Just be passionate with her to show her that she's not just another girl. When you focus on her, she feels wanted & desired. After a good night with you; she won't be able to turn back & you'll have won her heart.
Good luck, bud!! Hope I helped!
well, some girls are kinda bad there but not all girls are like that. if you think that this girl could really like you then talk to her about how other girls played you and how you don't want this relationship to be the same way. If she truly cares, she will reasure you of her feelings. As for her getting "aroused", it might be her playful way of showing you that shes up to having sex. hope this helps!
girls have this same problem, I would suggest you hold off on the sex for awhile and really get to know this person. I dont know how old you are or anything, but like the saying goes only time will tell. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, it should be something that happens when two people love each other and love takes time.
good luck to you!
wait awhile if you have doubts that she's not into you for the right stuff. it's not a bad thing to wait to have sex until you know for sure if she's there for more than just that.
After you do her for awhile her real personality will come out. That's when you need to decide. Always use protection.
If she really likes you then she'll wait on the sex thing if you make her...then you'll know if she's only after one thing or not
First of all, you don't need to have sex. WAIT til marriage. Go out with her and love her. After time and you are the right age and school behind you - then think about engagement.
How can you have respect for someone who has been "doing it" with others. It seems today that finding a girl who has not done it is very hard to find and Viceversa. But you will feel more special if for the first time together that you know that she has not done it with anyone else and she will feel that way with you.
Once you "do it" you lose respect for yourself and the person you are doing it to. AND how do you know they are not just using you for the "act". Be special!
Build on the relationship that you have. Really get to know each other and love each other. Love is a great thing and does not hurt i.e. cheating on each other, using someone, etc.
Waiting til wedding day is the best rout to go. You will feel very good about yourself and her.
Well, no girl can resist a good-looking guy--especially when he has the whole package (personality, brains, manners, etc.).
She sounds like a pretty good girl. Even though she's starting to get aroused when you're together, that just means she's connecting with you; emotionally AND physically.
Don't be afraid to take the next step with her. Just be passionate with her to show her that she's not just another girl. When you focus on her, she feels wanted & desired. After a good night with you; she won't be able to turn back & you'll have won her heart.
Good luck, bud!! Hope I helped!
well, some girls are kinda bad there but not all girls are like that. if you think that this girl could really like you then talk to her about how other girls played you and how you don't want this relationship to be the same way. If she truly cares, she will reasure you of her feelings. As for her getting "aroused", it might be her playful way of showing you that shes up to having sex. hope this helps!
girls have this same problem, I would suggest you hold off on the sex for awhile and really get to know this person. I dont know how old you are or anything, but like the saying goes only time will tell. Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, it should be something that happens when two people love each other and love takes time.
good luck to you!
wait awhile if you have doubts that she's not into you for the right stuff. it's not a bad thing to wait to have sex until you know for sure if she's there for more than just that.
After you do her for awhile her real personality will come out. That's when you need to decide. Always use protection.
If she really likes you then she'll wait on the sex thing if you make her...then you'll know if she's only after one thing or not
First of all, you don't need to have sex. WAIT til marriage. Go out with her and love her. After time and you are the right age and school behind you - then think about engagement.
How can you have respect for someone who has been "doing it" with others. It seems today that finding a girl who has not done it is very hard to find and Viceversa. But you will feel more special if for the first time together that you know that she has not done it with anyone else and she will feel that way with you.
Once you "do it" you lose respect for yourself and the person you are doing it to. AND how do you know they are not just using you for the "act". Be special!
Build on the relationship that you have. Really get to know each other and love each other. Love is a great thing and does not hurt i.e. cheating on each other, using someone, etc.
Waiting til wedding day is the best rout to go. You will feel very good about yourself and her.
ok..... me and a bunch of friends are going to the movies this weekend,,,and one of the ppl r going, is a girl that i like. they weird thing is....she likes it when guys dont treat her really nice..so basicly treat her like **** my friends said..iuno if im the kind of person that can be like that,,,,what do i do!?!?
If you pretend to be something you aren't, then what do you gain by having her like you? After all, she won't actually like *you* but the person you're pretending to be.
Be yourself. Act the way you always act. If she likes that, great! If not, she isn't the one for you anyway.
okay this girl is weird. If she doesn't like the way you are don't change for a person just because you like her. Be yourself and show her your true feelings. Maybe she'll end up liking you and a lot.
Trust me she will get hurt by these so called bad guys and then she will realise that that nice bot who liked her could have treated her right. Don't be that type of person, be yourself!
Dont do it
dont change yourself to be liked by others!
be yourself and if she dont like that its her problem
have fun
They're right treat her like a gentleman and if she doesn't like it than leave it at that
If you pretend to be something you aren't, then what do you gain by having her like you? After all, she won't actually like *you* but the person you're pretending to be.
Be yourself. Act the way you always act. If she likes that, great! If not, she isn't the one for you anyway.
okay this girl is weird. If she doesn't like the way you are don't change for a person just because you like her. Be yourself and show her your true feelings. Maybe she'll end up liking you and a lot.
Trust me she will get hurt by these so called bad guys and then she will realise that that nice bot who liked her could have treated her right. Don't be that type of person, be yourself!
Dont do it
dont change yourself to be liked by others!
be yourself and if she dont like that its her problem
have fun
They're right treat her like a gentleman and if she doesn't like it than leave it at that
Is Junior Prom a big deal?
Hi, Im in high school & of course there is prom coming up !
I'm probably not going to go . I just don't think they are a big deal . I don't have a date & all my friends will have dates. I'll feel really awkward ..especially during slow dances..& I don't think there's a point of spending all that money when I'll probably end up regretting it & feeling stupid.
Of course there's a guy I really would love to go with but I don't think he'd ask me in 129309403294 years.
So.. what should I do ? Go or not ? My friend won't stop bugging me about it ( she has a date though).
Thanks !
Junior Prom is to enjoy your young life! How about you ask out that guy you like. Girls can ask out guys too! I've seen a lot of girl on Yahoo say that they would ask out a guy they like. I think you should go. Just enjoy time with your friends and dance with someone during a slow dance. Even as friends. Actually if yo don't go you'll probably regret that you didn't go. Prom is a time where you can just enjoy life. Go! and ask someone out to Prom if you're up to it.
....ask him. It's no big deal, But you should go
I'm probably not going to go . I just don't think they are a big deal . I don't have a date & all my friends will have dates. I'll feel really awkward ..especially during slow dances..& I don't think there's a point of spending all that money when I'll probably end up regretting it & feeling stupid.
Of course there's a guy I really would love to go with but I don't think he'd ask me in 129309403294 years.
So.. what should I do ? Go or not ? My friend won't stop bugging me about it ( she has a date though).
Thanks !
Junior Prom is to enjoy your young life! How about you ask out that guy you like. Girls can ask out guys too! I've seen a lot of girl on Yahoo say that they would ask out a guy they like. I think you should go. Just enjoy time with your friends and dance with someone during a slow dance. Even as friends. Actually if yo don't go you'll probably regret that you didn't go. Prom is a time where you can just enjoy life. Go! and ask someone out to Prom if you're up to it.
....ask him. It's no big deal, But you should go
What would you do if the girl you are dating?
What would you do if you found out that the girl you are dating or the girl you are engaged was born a man.
if she was born a man then she is still a man and that would make you gay.
That is definitely big news. Something like that would bother me, although many people can look past something like that. obviously if you didn't know until now, it's not that apparent. I'd be more concerned with the secret part of it. did they tell you or did you find out somewhere else. You will need some time to digest this and sort out your feelings on it, but if it feels okay to you it shouldn't matter who they were, it's who they are now that you love.
That's a tough question. I guess it depends how you feel about that sort of surgery. Personally, I'm pretty sure that she should have told you before the point of getting engaged. That's a big truth to hold back on.
Basically you're dating a man, but with woman parts. How do you feel about that?
Omg, that's gross.
I'd dump this person.
I'd find it super disturbing that they didn't tell me in the first place. It kinda would make me wonder what else this person in hiding and how much I could trust them.
And think of it this way...
You'd be dating a guy who has sexuality issues.
And a creeper.
Run! She was born a man and that is kinda gay. I mean if you can get over it and accept the new he(r) then you are a bigger person than I am.
It depends on you if you love her or him then you probably need to stay with her/him. But if you not gay then you need to leave him/her.
LOL that would be weird..
but surgery is very advanced nowadays, so you shouldn't encounter too many problems. :D
I'd be indifferent.
I love for the personality, not the gender.
What the hell, then that is insane for a man to get married to another man. Gays?????
id be shocked, ask y didnt u tell me before, accept them for who they are and let it blow over but nothing we be the same again :(
Ahhhhhhhhh! Well if I were a man, that's what I would do.
I would get freaked out...come on your going to marry a man!
I would do "her" up the butt :).
.....id move to like another state
if she was born a man then she is still a man and that would make you gay.
That is definitely big news. Something like that would bother me, although many people can look past something like that. obviously if you didn't know until now, it's not that apparent. I'd be more concerned with the secret part of it. did they tell you or did you find out somewhere else. You will need some time to digest this and sort out your feelings on it, but if it feels okay to you it shouldn't matter who they were, it's who they are now that you love.
That's a tough question. I guess it depends how you feel about that sort of surgery. Personally, I'm pretty sure that she should have told you before the point of getting engaged. That's a big truth to hold back on.
Basically you're dating a man, but with woman parts. How do you feel about that?
Omg, that's gross.
I'd dump this person.
I'd find it super disturbing that they didn't tell me in the first place. It kinda would make me wonder what else this person in hiding and how much I could trust them.
And think of it this way...
You'd be dating a guy who has sexuality issues.
And a creeper.
Run! She was born a man and that is kinda gay. I mean if you can get over it and accept the new he(r) then you are a bigger person than I am.
It depends on you if you love her or him then you probably need to stay with her/him. But if you not gay then you need to leave him/her.
LOL that would be weird..
but surgery is very advanced nowadays, so you shouldn't encounter too many problems. :D
I'd be indifferent.
I love for the personality, not the gender.
What the hell, then that is insane for a man to get married to another man. Gays?????
id be shocked, ask y didnt u tell me before, accept them for who they are and let it blow over but nothing we be the same again :(
Ahhhhhhhhh! Well if I were a man, that's what I would do.
I would get freaked out...come on your going to marry a man!
I would do "her" up the butt :).
.....id move to like another state
How can i get my parents to get me a cell hone (or at least pay for half?)?
i will not beg ( not that 'kinda girl), i am willing to pay half and give up half of my allowance a month.
you can't
In case you don't know the country is in a recession.
Be Thankful for what you have, including a roof over your head.
Sorry..
Have you tried just asking? I you are trust worthy and responsible they should have a problem with it. I the mom of a teen, and she has rules about her phone and as long as she sticks to them she can have it.
Why do you want a cellphone? Assuming you have good reasons, list them out and tell them to your parents and ask.
You can also do some of the research into phones for yourself. Figure out what you need (and realistically what you want) and exactly how much it'll cost a month. Doing all the research will help show your parents you are responsible and could help convince them to get you one. (I'd advise looking into some of the prepaid services as then there won't be any surprise bills at the end of the month).
you can't
In case you don't know the country is in a recession.
Be Thankful for what you have, including a roof over your head.
Sorry..
Have you tried just asking? I you are trust worthy and responsible they should have a problem with it. I the mom of a teen, and she has rules about her phone and as long as she sticks to them she can have it.
Why do you want a cellphone? Assuming you have good reasons, list them out and tell them to your parents and ask.
You can also do some of the research into phones for yourself. Figure out what you need (and realistically what you want) and exactly how much it'll cost a month. Doing all the research will help show your parents you are responsible and could help convince them to get you one. (I'd advise looking into some of the prepaid services as then there won't be any surprise bills at the end of the month).
How does a married guy break up with a secret, married Emotional Friend because he
I've never had full-on sex with the EF, so please no judgment.
Hmmm, that is a tough question...The thing of it is, its an EF...so, although ethically some may say its an affair none the less, some may perceive it as not an affair...If your truly concerned about her "emotions", the best way is to slowly back away...gradually so to speak so that she can kinda see the divide occuring yet its not a cold turkey feeling...eventually you just flat out stop all contact with her. EF's are tricky...Emotions run deeply, and your really cannot expect to be able to break things off and NOT hurt her, either way, your going to crush her...just being honest, not judgmental...BUT, you have to do what you have to do...There are no hard fast rules on this kind of thing...Sometimes people come into our lives for a time or a season, and then for whatever reason they are not there any longer. We all move forward and beyond. Its just the cycle of life. Hope it helps. Take care.
If you want to cut the ties with her completely, then it might be best to be as honest as you can with her. You could soften it a little by telling her your work and family life are consuming more of your time, especially if you want to keep her as a friend, but just cut back on some of the time together. I don't know what kind of person she is as to whether or not you should tell her you feel you're wanting too much from the relationship and you're afraid where it might lead. That might not work, as she may welcome the idea.
Why would a married guy be worried about breaking up with one emotional friend because he prefers another?
Not judging--just really want to know what you're worried about? That she might tell your wife of other EF? She cant seriously believe you two are a true item, and if she does---you havent been 'honest' with her.
Affairs of the heart are just miserable and why would you do that if you weren't having sex. Gee whiz, that's too much work, pal!
Avoid the grief, introduce her to someone new to take your place. Tell her you have to go to Iraq, or China, or your new EF's place. Tell her you've decided to become a raging drunk, a drug addict, a porn star (oops, better not use that one), or enter the priesthood.
Tell your EF you have ED and it requires medical treatment in Egypt.
or you could just be honest and say good bye
Honesty is the best policy, you'll always be respected for it!!!
just cut her off and move on,, there is nothing wrong with moving on
tell her that it is you not her
don't break up with her, just cheat on her.
Can't you make it "bleed it to death" ??
I mean lower your level of attention until she gets it?
gentle ha do like some guys i know the dissapearing act, like run away,,
Hmmm, that is a tough question...The thing of it is, its an EF...so, although ethically some may say its an affair none the less, some may perceive it as not an affair...If your truly concerned about her "emotions", the best way is to slowly back away...gradually so to speak so that she can kinda see the divide occuring yet its not a cold turkey feeling...eventually you just flat out stop all contact with her. EF's are tricky...Emotions run deeply, and your really cannot expect to be able to break things off and NOT hurt her, either way, your going to crush her...just being honest, not judgmental...BUT, you have to do what you have to do...There are no hard fast rules on this kind of thing...Sometimes people come into our lives for a time or a season, and then for whatever reason they are not there any longer. We all move forward and beyond. Its just the cycle of life. Hope it helps. Take care.
If you want to cut the ties with her completely, then it might be best to be as honest as you can with her. You could soften it a little by telling her your work and family life are consuming more of your time, especially if you want to keep her as a friend, but just cut back on some of the time together. I don't know what kind of person she is as to whether or not you should tell her you feel you're wanting too much from the relationship and you're afraid where it might lead. That might not work, as she may welcome the idea.
Why would a married guy be worried about breaking up with one emotional friend because he prefers another?
Not judging--just really want to know what you're worried about? That she might tell your wife of other EF? She cant seriously believe you two are a true item, and if she does---you havent been 'honest' with her.
Affairs of the heart are just miserable and why would you do that if you weren't having sex. Gee whiz, that's too much work, pal!
Avoid the grief, introduce her to someone new to take your place. Tell her you have to go to Iraq, or China, or your new EF's place. Tell her you've decided to become a raging drunk, a drug addict, a porn star (oops, better not use that one), or enter the priesthood.
Tell your EF you have ED and it requires medical treatment in Egypt.
or you could just be honest and say good bye
Honesty is the best policy, you'll always be respected for it!!!
just cut her off and move on,, there is nothing wrong with moving on
tell her that it is you not her
don't break up with her, just cheat on her.
Can't you make it "bleed it to death" ??
I mean lower your level of attention until she gets it?
gentle ha do like some guys i know the dissapearing act, like run away,,
Why is it that married women were more interested in befriending me when I was fat and unhappy?
When I was 30 pounds heavier, before I started a serious workout routine, married women used to take me to lunch and be full of sexual innuendo. Now I'm thinner, happier and nothing. Nada. It's not my imagination, either. Though the wife is much more interested.
(But was that really my goal in working out? I guess karma got me!)
I thought you were still getting interest from women, married or single. If you were getting more interest when you were heavier and unhappy, it was probably because they wanted to help you. Women can be nurturers and a lot of us like to help people. The fact that you were unhappy can be like a sexual magnet to some women. They want to be the one to make a difference in your life and give you a better outlook on life. With 30 extra pounds, you probably still weren't what most people would consider fat. They probably saw that as part of your unhappiness that they wanted to help you with. Also, some women like a little extra padding.
If you look great, are happier and more confident acting and looking, they may think that things are going extremely well for you in your marriage or that you're already too occupied with other women friends. They may be a little intimidated and look for someone who looks more like he could use some help.
Now, whenever I hear the word "karma" I think of Earl! But, yes, I think karma got you good!
Being seen with an overweight palooka is not going to get their husband's pissed off. THey can explain how nice you are and how nothing is going on and it is believable to their hubs.
A good looking guy with pythons for arms and a 46 inch chest is another matter. Indeed as the earlier answerer said much more dangerous to the marriage.
They're probably intimidated by you. You know, good looking guy with a wig, unbuttoned shirt down to his navel and 30 chains on his neck.
Maybe fat and unhappy men seem more in need of friends? Could be the Belushi syndrome or something. Fat means funny.
yeah, I dunno
you should be happy that your wife is more interested in you ,you should take advantage of it
your working out goal is good for your health,,
Because they felt you were safe because they didnt want you.
Now they might actually find you attractive and that spell danger.
i think they thought of you as their teddy bear!!
LOL.. because before, you were "safe".. they could flirt away with you and get their kicks, but they didn't see you as affair material.. now, you're looking hot and they don't trust themselves! ;~)
(But was that really my goal in working out? I guess karma got me!)
I thought you were still getting interest from women, married or single. If you were getting more interest when you were heavier and unhappy, it was probably because they wanted to help you. Women can be nurturers and a lot of us like to help people. The fact that you were unhappy can be like a sexual magnet to some women. They want to be the one to make a difference in your life and give you a better outlook on life. With 30 extra pounds, you probably still weren't what most people would consider fat. They probably saw that as part of your unhappiness that they wanted to help you with. Also, some women like a little extra padding.
If you look great, are happier and more confident acting and looking, they may think that things are going extremely well for you in your marriage or that you're already too occupied with other women friends. They may be a little intimidated and look for someone who looks more like he could use some help.
Now, whenever I hear the word "karma" I think of Earl! But, yes, I think karma got you good!
Being seen with an overweight palooka is not going to get their husband's pissed off. THey can explain how nice you are and how nothing is going on and it is believable to their hubs.
A good looking guy with pythons for arms and a 46 inch chest is another matter. Indeed as the earlier answerer said much more dangerous to the marriage.
They're probably intimidated by you. You know, good looking guy with a wig, unbuttoned shirt down to his navel and 30 chains on his neck.
Maybe fat and unhappy men seem more in need of friends? Could be the Belushi syndrome or something. Fat means funny.
yeah, I dunno
you should be happy that your wife is more interested in you ,you should take advantage of it
your working out goal is good for your health,,
Because they felt you were safe because they didnt want you.
Now they might actually find you attractive and that spell danger.
i think they thought of you as their teddy bear!!
LOL.. because before, you were "safe".. they could flirt away with you and get their kicks, but they didn't see you as affair material.. now, you're looking hot and they don't trust themselves! ;~)
Im having lots of troubles with some friends and ex-bf... what do i do? plz...help!?
ok so about a month ago i told you about my bf and him cheating on me... well he thought i was going to break up with him...and honestly i fell in love with him and i loved him sooo much..he thought it would make it easier on me i he just broke up with me so he did :'( and the girl that he cheated on me with is now dating him. I still talk to him and she knows i still like (love!) him. She is telling him to stop talking to me and EVERYTHING!! it so annoying and she hates my guts. we even used to be like best friends. :'( omg i just wanna cry. but another person is his best friend and they act like cousins. but ever since we broke up she has haaaaaaaaaated me. we were deff. best friends too :( now all she does is make mean remarks and it bothers me. i just want it to stop. oh and the thing where his new gf is telling him what to do...hes following what she says to do. he didn't even talk to me once! (well at least today) but he ignores me alot and it makes me really sad. i just want her to STOP and accept that me and him can be friends..... im in LOVE with him. i want him back :''(
as much as id like to tell you to do all in your power to break them up, leave him what will appear to be a final note telling him how much you love him and all your feelings for him and how you love him so much that your willing to take him back after what he did to you. just open your heart to him and ask him what good can come out of a relationship that came to be through cheating and itll just mean she can do it to him anytime... tell him to think about that and how hurt you are and only he can heal your broken heart. tell him itll be your last letter and if he doesnt come back then you are sorry for anything you did to have caused this and that youll leave him alone now and you think its best if he doesnt talk to you for a while. you have nothing to lose and everything to gain with this. try writing poetry or music during this time and hanging out with friends and stuff you couldnt do when you were with him. as horrible as it seems, everything will work out for you in the end:) Im honestly so sorry that this happened to you and youll be in my prayers tonight even though i dont know you..
Okay... you need to move on. The people on his side are clearly on his side, and were never true friends.
You are starting to look pathetic and needy, and need to back off. Try finding new friends, and pretend that all of them don't exist. It won't be easy at first, but it's best in the long run.
dude, that sucks!!!!! im sorry i have no advise.
as much as id like to tell you to do all in your power to break them up, leave him what will appear to be a final note telling him how much you love him and all your feelings for him and how you love him so much that your willing to take him back after what he did to you. just open your heart to him and ask him what good can come out of a relationship that came to be through cheating and itll just mean she can do it to him anytime... tell him to think about that and how hurt you are and only he can heal your broken heart. tell him itll be your last letter and if he doesnt come back then you are sorry for anything you did to have caused this and that youll leave him alone now and you think its best if he doesnt talk to you for a while. you have nothing to lose and everything to gain with this. try writing poetry or music during this time and hanging out with friends and stuff you couldnt do when you were with him. as horrible as it seems, everything will work out for you in the end:) Im honestly so sorry that this happened to you and youll be in my prayers tonight even though i dont know you..
Okay... you need to move on. The people on his side are clearly on his side, and were never true friends.
You are starting to look pathetic and needy, and need to back off. Try finding new friends, and pretend that all of them don't exist. It won't be easy at first, but it's best in the long run.
dude, that sucks!!!!! im sorry i have no advise.
Does this girl like me?
Does this girl like me?
Recently She started saying Hi to me less but in gym I see her looking at me alot, .and recently when she says hi she makes her best friend say it to, also if she sees me talking with someone she will wait until I'm done and she will say she would of said hi earlier but didn't want to interrupt me,& when I walk bye her class she will call me and wave.
*I was at my bu stop one day and when she saw me she yelled my name so then I went to go talk 2 her , she then asked me if I get annoyed that she says Hi everytime she sees me and I said no its np. And when I got on the bus her & her best friend saved me a seat.
One day I passed by her two different times and both times 2 different guys had there arms around her. Then friday i was getting on the bus with my cuzin and i turned behind me and there she was with one of my friends but I kept seeing her looking at me by the reflection of the window. Then on the bus she was talking to my friend the whole bus ride but she would keep looking at me??
im thinking she doesn't since she hangs out with alot of guys.Plus recently I see this guy talking to her alot on her facebook so im thinking somethings gonna happen between them.
anywayz 2day I was walking 2 the bus stop with my cuzin when I heard my name being called and when I turned around she was in the car with her sis and her sis bf, her best friend, her friend's bf and that guy whos been talking 2 her alot on facebook and hanging out with. She yelled my name and told me to have a good march break. So Does Or Did She like me?
understand that girls love and need attention... all the time.
this will never change. they may need less as time goes on but they will always need more than us. they especially need attention when they aren't getting the proper attention or enough of it at home.
she likes you but probably no more than the rest of the guys she hangs around. even if she says she does. she just wants you to like and accept her.
Recently She started saying Hi to me less but in gym I see her looking at me alot, .and recently when she says hi she makes her best friend say it to, also if she sees me talking with someone she will wait until I'm done and she will say she would of said hi earlier but didn't want to interrupt me,& when I walk bye her class she will call me and wave.
*I was at my bu stop one day and when she saw me she yelled my name so then I went to go talk 2 her , she then asked me if I get annoyed that she says Hi everytime she sees me and I said no its np. And when I got on the bus her & her best friend saved me a seat.
One day I passed by her two different times and both times 2 different guys had there arms around her. Then friday i was getting on the bus with my cuzin and i turned behind me and there she was with one of my friends but I kept seeing her looking at me by the reflection of the window. Then on the bus she was talking to my friend the whole bus ride but she would keep looking at me??
im thinking she doesn't since she hangs out with alot of guys.Plus recently I see this guy talking to her alot on her facebook so im thinking somethings gonna happen between them.
anywayz 2day I was walking 2 the bus stop with my cuzin when I heard my name being called and when I turned around she was in the car with her sis and her sis bf, her best friend, her friend's bf and that guy whos been talking 2 her alot on facebook and hanging out with. She yelled my name and told me to have a good march break. So Does Or Did She like me?
understand that girls love and need attention... all the time.
this will never change. they may need less as time goes on but they will always need more than us. they especially need attention when they aren't getting the proper attention or enough of it at home.
she likes you but probably no more than the rest of the guys she hangs around. even if she says she does. she just wants you to like and accept her.
Me and this girl like each other for sure, but her mom wont let her go out with anybody and go out secretly is not an option... please help!!!
if she can't go out on any dates then go to her house & hang out. get the parents trust and i'm sure they'll let you take her out in no time.
Sounds to me like a high school problem and that's okay. I would see her at school and be in that sorta relationship. Hang with her there and if your relationship blossoms then hold out for the day that y'all can go out without hiding anything. I would definitely not recommend doing anything that would drive a wedge between her and her mother...that's a wound that don't heal and someday the girl would probably hate for it. Just give it time and things will work out.
Ask her if her Mom will allow you to come to their house and watch TV or do homework together or just listen to music and talk. This should absolutely NOT be a bedroom visit and should be done when Mom is home. This is the way my sisters and I started spending time with boys. As long as you are polite and make your visits short, you can probable work this out with her Mom.
If she is of proper age then I would go to her mother and ask her permission to take her daughter out. If she still says no then maybe ask if you could join them in a family event like the movies, park, etc. That will show her mother that your interested in her daughter but at the same time respect her as her mother. Only if shes of dating age though!!
This would be extremely akward for you but you could talk to this girls mom. Give her your contact info and explain that you would get this girl home on time and safely. Start with a small date and work up. Like icecream in a public place. You would look responsible and mature for reasoning with her.
Try doing a group thing. It won't be one-on-one, but it's better than nothing. I know I'm still not trusted with a guy alone, not that I've done anything to have lost that trust. Maybe meet her mom, let her see what a great guy you are so you can earn her trust.
Well, the issue is between her and her mom. Try asking her if she could talk to her mom about meeting you. But if it's not gonna happen, then don't get involved any further. Maybe you could have a chance again down the road.
well maybe you should prove to her mom that you will not do anything to hurt her daughter and that you will treat her with respect. show the mom that you are sweet and caring.
Well, First of all is this girl 18
I think not so you should respect the girls mom, and don't try to push your luck.
So wait, if you love her that much I'm sure you can wait until she's 18.
Well you can try talking to her mom? Maybe once she gets to know you she can see that you really do care about her daughter?
If you guys really like each other than you guys have to be willing to wait.
There's no question here!
If you can't go out then you can't go out.
I don't get what you want help with.
let me guess your 45 years old and she is 14 years old
HIRE A HITMAN AND GET THE MUM TAKEN OUT!!!! THEN U WONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THE *****
if she can't go out on any dates then go to her house & hang out. get the parents trust and i'm sure they'll let you take her out in no time.
Sounds to me like a high school problem and that's okay. I would see her at school and be in that sorta relationship. Hang with her there and if your relationship blossoms then hold out for the day that y'all can go out without hiding anything. I would definitely not recommend doing anything that would drive a wedge between her and her mother...that's a wound that don't heal and someday the girl would probably hate for it. Just give it time and things will work out.
Ask her if her Mom will allow you to come to their house and watch TV or do homework together or just listen to music and talk. This should absolutely NOT be a bedroom visit and should be done when Mom is home. This is the way my sisters and I started spending time with boys. As long as you are polite and make your visits short, you can probable work this out with her Mom.
If she is of proper age then I would go to her mother and ask her permission to take her daughter out. If she still says no then maybe ask if you could join them in a family event like the movies, park, etc. That will show her mother that your interested in her daughter but at the same time respect her as her mother. Only if shes of dating age though!!
This would be extremely akward for you but you could talk to this girls mom. Give her your contact info and explain that you would get this girl home on time and safely. Start with a small date and work up. Like icecream in a public place. You would look responsible and mature for reasoning with her.
Try doing a group thing. It won't be one-on-one, but it's better than nothing. I know I'm still not trusted with a guy alone, not that I've done anything to have lost that trust. Maybe meet her mom, let her see what a great guy you are so you can earn her trust.
Well, the issue is between her and her mom. Try asking her if she could talk to her mom about meeting you. But if it's not gonna happen, then don't get involved any further. Maybe you could have a chance again down the road.
well maybe you should prove to her mom that you will not do anything to hurt her daughter and that you will treat her with respect. show the mom that you are sweet and caring.
Well, First of all is this girl 18
I think not so you should respect the girls mom, and don't try to push your luck.
So wait, if you love her that much I'm sure you can wait until she's 18.
Well you can try talking to her mom? Maybe once she gets to know you she can see that you really do care about her daughter?
If you guys really like each other than you guys have to be willing to wait.
There's no question here!
If you can't go out then you can't go out.
I don't get what you want help with.
let me guess your 45 years old and she is 14 years old
HIRE A HITMAN AND GET THE MUM TAKEN OUT!!!! THEN U WONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THE *****
Can I move in with another relative?
I'm currently 14 and I live in Ontario, Canada.
My parents are divorced and I only get to visit my dad 2 times a month. (Every 2nd Sunday)
I'm currently living with my mom and I'm planning on leaving my mom's place this summer once I'm done Grade 9. (I will be 15) I want to move to my Grandparent's place because my little brother has a restraining order with my dad's girlfriend and it takes effect for me as well because my mom made it to do so.
The restraining order ends this December so I will be going to my dad's once it has ended.
I know the legal age where I am to choose where to live is 16, but I'm wondering if I can live with my Grandparent's as long as both my mom and my Grandparent's approve my choice.
All help appreciated. :)
It depends on the wording of the divorce decree, and whether your mom will be renewing the restraining order. If your dad has joint legal custody, he has to agree also.
If the restraining order is no longer needed, your mom can ask the court to dissolve it prior to December.
Even though you can have a say in where you live at age 16, the court will still have to determine that that is in your best interest. It will be better if everyone agrees to a revised court custody and visitation order.
I CAN SEE YOU WANT TO GO TO YOUR DAD,WHATEVER IS GOOD,BUT IN ALL YOU ARE DOING,HOPE YOU KEEP URSELF VIRGIN TILL YOU MEET WHOM TELL YOU MARRY ME,AND TAKE U TO UR PARENT FOR MARRAIGE.AND HOPE YOU DONT COPY YOUR MOTHER AND DAD,FOR DIVORCING,MAY BE ITS NOT WORKING BETWEEN THEM.
LASTLY,MOVING IN WITH ANOTHER RELATIVE ITS SHOWS THAT YOU ARE A SHAMEFUL GIRL,THAT WANT TO BRING INSULT TO UR PARENT,THAT THEY CANT KEEP YOU.HUMBLE YOURSELF AND STOP WORKING UP AND DAWN,STAY WITH YOUR FATHER OR MOTHER.STAYING WITH STRANGE POEPLE,YOU MYTH GET DISVIRGIN BY THERE SON,OR BY THE MAN IN THE HOUSE,OR WHATEVER.STAY WITH UR PARENT.THANKS
My parents are divorced and I only get to visit my dad 2 times a month. (Every 2nd Sunday)
I'm currently living with my mom and I'm planning on leaving my mom's place this summer once I'm done Grade 9. (I will be 15) I want to move to my Grandparent's place because my little brother has a restraining order with my dad's girlfriend and it takes effect for me as well because my mom made it to do so.
The restraining order ends this December so I will be going to my dad's once it has ended.
I know the legal age where I am to choose where to live is 16, but I'm wondering if I can live with my Grandparent's as long as both my mom and my Grandparent's approve my choice.
All help appreciated. :)
It depends on the wording of the divorce decree, and whether your mom will be renewing the restraining order. If your dad has joint legal custody, he has to agree also.
If the restraining order is no longer needed, your mom can ask the court to dissolve it prior to December.
Even though you can have a say in where you live at age 16, the court will still have to determine that that is in your best interest. It will be better if everyone agrees to a revised court custody and visitation order.
I CAN SEE YOU WANT TO GO TO YOUR DAD,WHATEVER IS GOOD,BUT IN ALL YOU ARE DOING,HOPE YOU KEEP URSELF VIRGIN TILL YOU MEET WHOM TELL YOU MARRY ME,AND TAKE U TO UR PARENT FOR MARRAIGE.AND HOPE YOU DONT COPY YOUR MOTHER AND DAD,FOR DIVORCING,MAY BE ITS NOT WORKING BETWEEN THEM.
LASTLY,MOVING IN WITH ANOTHER RELATIVE ITS SHOWS THAT YOU ARE A SHAMEFUL GIRL,THAT WANT TO BRING INSULT TO UR PARENT,THAT THEY CANT KEEP YOU.HUMBLE YOURSELF AND STOP WORKING UP AND DAWN,STAY WITH YOUR FATHER OR MOTHER.STAYING WITH STRANGE POEPLE,YOU MYTH GET DISVIRGIN BY THERE SON,OR BY THE MAN IN THE HOUSE,OR WHATEVER.STAY WITH UR PARENT.THANKS
I have a friend who is an a------- but really have no one else to hang out with. Any ideas?
Firsty: think, do you like this person at all? do they have any good qualities and things you like about them?
Because if the answers are no, you%26#039;re wasting your time, and you should try and make new friends away from this person; join a club of some sort, talk to more people, get a job, anything where you can socialise and are away from this person, so you can create a fresh start for yourself. I know it sounds hard, making new friends, but there are so many people who are like yourself, and if you persevere you will find someone who is a million times better.
If the answers were yes, maybe it is worth trying to sort out any issues you and your friend may have. Talk to him/her, and say you aren%26#039;t happy with the way they treat you etc, and say you want to save the friendship before it%26#039;s too late.
I hope i helped!
My idea is that your friend is an ******** and you have no one else to hang out with. ^__^ Umm...my advice would be to be the opposite of him and get friends through being nice. Or join him and be jerks together!! :] Yay!
Make new friends.It may be hard for you seeing as you only have one friend that is a @!%26amp;%* but it%26#039;ll be hard to get through the human world if you never learn
well if your friend or whatever did something that made you mad...you appearently dont need them..there is alot of people out there..so you don%26#039;t worry about it.. :)
have you told them they are an A*****? if so and nothings changed..go out and meet new people..make new friends..get a puppy and go to the park..do something
i would just ditch him
that says a whole lot about you...
make new friends. its not that hard ya know?
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Because if the answers are no, you%26#039;re wasting your time, and you should try and make new friends away from this person; join a club of some sort, talk to more people, get a job, anything where you can socialise and are away from this person, so you can create a fresh start for yourself. I know it sounds hard, making new friends, but there are so many people who are like yourself, and if you persevere you will find someone who is a million times better.
If the answers were yes, maybe it is worth trying to sort out any issues you and your friend may have. Talk to him/her, and say you aren%26#039;t happy with the way they treat you etc, and say you want to save the friendship before it%26#039;s too late.
I hope i helped!
My idea is that your friend is an ******** and you have no one else to hang out with. ^__^ Umm...my advice would be to be the opposite of him and get friends through being nice. Or join him and be jerks together!! :] Yay!
Make new friends.It may be hard for you seeing as you only have one friend that is a @!%26amp;%* but it%26#039;ll be hard to get through the human world if you never learn
well if your friend or whatever did something that made you mad...you appearently dont need them..there is alot of people out there..so you don%26#039;t worry about it.. :)
have you told them they are an A*****? if so and nothings changed..go out and meet new people..make new friends..get a puppy and go to the park..do something
i would just ditch him
that says a whole lot about you...
make new friends. its not that hard ya know?
%0D%0A
Ok girls Fast or Slow in bed?
Ok kinda a personal question but girls if you and your boyfriend are havin some sex
do you prefer for him to go fast and hard or slow and gentle?
real talk
I personally like to do my girl both interchangeably
Hm, I like it when we go slow and gentle then hard and fast, it's more romantic at first then gets wild hehe!
It changes. If I want romantic sex, he'll go slow, but if I want rough sex, he'll go fast. He tells me he'll do what I want because he wants to make it all about me in the sack. I want it to be about him, too. He's such a gentleman. :) Love that guy.
Depends on the man and the mood. I say change it around, stay focused on your partner and ask if your not sure. .hey baby how would you like it? Im feeling hot n horny .. hard works for me!
i like both too. i like fast and hard the best, but slow and deep is great too.
start off slow and gentle and deep then get wild
both. feel her out. she'll show you signs.... at least she should.
slow and deep
do you prefer for him to go fast and hard or slow and gentle?
real talk
I personally like to do my girl both interchangeably
Hm, I like it when we go slow and gentle then hard and fast, it's more romantic at first then gets wild hehe!
It changes. If I want romantic sex, he'll go slow, but if I want rough sex, he'll go fast. He tells me he'll do what I want because he wants to make it all about me in the sack. I want it to be about him, too. He's such a gentleman. :) Love that guy.
Depends on the man and the mood. I say change it around, stay focused on your partner and ask if your not sure. .hey baby how would you like it? Im feeling hot n horny .. hard works for me!
i like both too. i like fast and hard the best, but slow and deep is great too.
start off slow and gentle and deep then get wild
both. feel her out. she'll show you signs.... at least she should.
slow and deep
Can I have some advice please :]?
Hi, I need some help- especially from boys !
so.. there's this kid I like in my school & we don't have any classes together. The only time I really see him is at lunch. He sits at the table behind me. How do I even talk to him or get him to notice me?
I'm not the prettiest person.. my confidence isn't that great .. but he seems like a really nice kid :]
So.. if anyone has any advice on how I can talk to him or something .. that would be really helpful :]
Thanks! & I'm in high school if that matters .
ok, I can see that you are sort of shy. Try to find opportunity when he is alone. Walk to him and introduce yourself. Try not to tell him how you feel about him first. Be his friend first as you have to understand his character and personality. You are a girl who have feelings too. Good luck in everything. Perhaps you can also ask him out to find out whether is he single or not. You must be brave. Chances don't always come.Grab the golden chance.
when you see him sitting alone walk up to him and ask him if you can join him for lunch if he says "yes" then introduce your self, ask him some questions but don't rush and tell him how you feel because you are stranger to him at first. next ask him if he likes anyone from your school. THE REST IS UP TO YOU!!!
well just go for it. Do not be shy guys like girls who are confident about them selves and its not always about looks so just be yourself. good luck
next time just walk up to him and ask him if you can join him for lunch...trust me it will work
so.. there's this kid I like in my school & we don't have any classes together. The only time I really see him is at lunch. He sits at the table behind me. How do I even talk to him or get him to notice me?
I'm not the prettiest person.. my confidence isn't that great .. but he seems like a really nice kid :]
So.. if anyone has any advice on how I can talk to him or something .. that would be really helpful :]
Thanks! & I'm in high school if that matters .
ok, I can see that you are sort of shy. Try to find opportunity when he is alone. Walk to him and introduce yourself. Try not to tell him how you feel about him first. Be his friend first as you have to understand his character and personality. You are a girl who have feelings too. Good luck in everything. Perhaps you can also ask him out to find out whether is he single or not. You must be brave. Chances don't always come.Grab the golden chance.
when you see him sitting alone walk up to him and ask him if you can join him for lunch if he says "yes" then introduce your self, ask him some questions but don't rush and tell him how you feel because you are stranger to him at first. next ask him if he likes anyone from your school. THE REST IS UP TO YOU!!!
well just go for it. Do not be shy guys like girls who are confident about them selves and its not always about looks so just be yourself. good luck
next time just walk up to him and ask him if you can join him for lunch...trust me it will work
Is she a true friend? Please give me some advice!?
Alright so I have a "best friend" and she really makes me mad sometimes! So yesterday she called me twice, when she was phucked up and high. She was hanging around these girls that get her caught up in these things, and she called me when she was at their house, and she was like " Hey mann I'm sooo messed up right now" andI was like " Okay well I have to go." And she was like "No dude, I want to fight with you cause it's really funnn!"
And me and her have only hung out ONCE this whole Spring Break. The rest of the time, she has been at the other girls' house!
Should I leave her as a friend, or keep her?
We have had sooo many memories together though, and I don't want to put all those fun times behind. But I just don't want to get caught up in drugs. I'm better than that!
:)
Thanksss! I'll choose a best answer!<3
I would wait until she gets dumped by her other friends then when she comes to you, she will be sorry and you should make her prove it to you. This is a good way to prevent that type of behavior in the future!
I would start ignoring her for a bit. When she's sober and back at school and the girls who just get her ****** up will get her in trouble and don't really care about her, she will see that she has lost a good friend and that's when you can say change your crazy ways
And me and her have only hung out ONCE this whole Spring Break. The rest of the time, she has been at the other girls' house!
Should I leave her as a friend, or keep her?
We have had sooo many memories together though, and I don't want to put all those fun times behind. But I just don't want to get caught up in drugs. I'm better than that!
:)
Thanksss! I'll choose a best answer!<3
I would wait until she gets dumped by her other friends then when she comes to you, she will be sorry and you should make her prove it to you. This is a good way to prevent that type of behavior in the future!
I would start ignoring her for a bit. When she's sober and back at school and the girls who just get her ****** up will get her in trouble and don't really care about her, she will see that she has lost a good friend and that's when you can say change your crazy ways
I feel like I need to hang everyday with my friend?
But then I do Getmad. But today I promised my husband the house would be clean when he came home from work. But I feel life is to short and I need to hang with friends before the weekend help what would you do. oh by the way we are both women and feel like were sisters thanks have a great friday
You just need to manage your time better. Yes friends are important but surely you don't have to spend ALL day with her. And if you do, ask her to help you clean your house. You seem to have a problem separating what you want to do from what you need to do. Cleaning the house is necessary and if you promised your husband you would he will just be upset when he gets home now. So you need to decide which relationship is more important, your marriage or your friendship. Now since you are saying "both are equally important" make time for both. Spend 3 hours in the morning with your friend, clean the house, spend the night with your husband. Problem solved!
Unless your going to die tommarow, you should clean up your house first. Perhaps you can meet up with your friend next time! After all, a promise is a promise, and you should keep it. Maybe every so often also, you can ask your husband from a break from work, but don't do it too much otherwise it might look like you love your friend more than your husband!
Hope you'll have a great Friday too! ^_^
Spend time with your friends but don't forget about the people who depend on you and love you. There is nothing wrong with squeezing in a little time for you and your friends.
<3 hope that helped
okay just clean up before you go out and tell your friends that you will talk or hang out with them once you finish the house
You just need to manage your time better. Yes friends are important but surely you don't have to spend ALL day with her. And if you do, ask her to help you clean your house. You seem to have a problem separating what you want to do from what you need to do. Cleaning the house is necessary and if you promised your husband you would he will just be upset when he gets home now. So you need to decide which relationship is more important, your marriage or your friendship. Now since you are saying "both are equally important" make time for both. Spend 3 hours in the morning with your friend, clean the house, spend the night with your husband. Problem solved!
Unless your going to die tommarow, you should clean up your house first. Perhaps you can meet up with your friend next time! After all, a promise is a promise, and you should keep it. Maybe every so often also, you can ask your husband from a break from work, but don't do it too much otherwise it might look like you love your friend more than your husband!
Hope you'll have a great Friday too! ^_^
Spend time with your friends but don't forget about the people who depend on you and love you. There is nothing wrong with squeezing in a little time for you and your friends.
<3 hope that helped
okay just clean up before you go out and tell your friends that you will talk or hang out with them once you finish the house
Iam friends with 2 people here is the question?
Can a person be friends with 2 people when they know each other? Like a mom and daughter. See I used to be friends with this girl for 4 years she even was my boss at work. Now I don't work and her mom is my friend also. I go for coffee allot to the mom's house. I like them both but now I like the mom better. The mom sometimes tell me she does not like her daughter which used to be my friend. Sometimes i cant stand her also. But sometimes after visit the mom I fill like she might tell her daughter what we talk about she told me she wouldn't but it scares me some. And also my friend the girl does not really hang with me like it used to be she has other friends. So I tell her mom I hate not being friends that we used to be . What should I do about this friend ship should I just do what I like or what you can tell me thanks for being so nice and helping me today
Well youe in a hard spot. You never get to pick who your friends are or become. Don feel guilty for being her friend with the mom. You have to ask why your friendship with the daughter feel apart. Was it because you became friends with the mom or something different? I had a similar situation and what I did is sat my one friend down which in your case would be the daughter and talk it out. Find out why you lost that friendship. In the end it comes down to you if youe happy being friends with the mom so do it. If the mom is your true friend she won tell her daughter what the two of you are talking about.
I think you should follow your heart. If you like hanging out with her mom and the mom likes hanging out with you then thats fine. If you want to hang out with the girl then hang out with the girl. I mean you only have worry if the girl hates you or something. It could get awkward if the girl sees that you're like BFF with her mom or something but then again, who cares? You should do what you feel like. You can't go wrong when you follow your heart!
<3 hope i helped
To have friends you have to be a friend. yes you may have many friends even if they do not get along with each other. Be an example for peace.
Well youe in a hard spot. You never get to pick who your friends are or become. Don feel guilty for being her friend with the mom. You have to ask why your friendship with the daughter feel apart. Was it because you became friends with the mom or something different? I had a similar situation and what I did is sat my one friend down which in your case would be the daughter and talk it out. Find out why you lost that friendship. In the end it comes down to you if youe happy being friends with the mom so do it. If the mom is your true friend she won tell her daughter what the two of you are talking about.
I think you should follow your heart. If you like hanging out with her mom and the mom likes hanging out with you then thats fine. If you want to hang out with the girl then hang out with the girl. I mean you only have worry if the girl hates you or something. It could get awkward if the girl sees that you're like BFF with her mom or something but then again, who cares? You should do what you feel like. You can't go wrong when you follow your heart!
<3 hope i helped
To have friends you have to be a friend. yes you may have many friends even if they do not get along with each other. Be an example for peace.
How much you know about LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP?
Tell me what you want.
Love or Friendship, friendship or love.
I don't know that much, but I have my whole life to experience it.
In my opinion, love should include friendship.
Love or Friendship, friendship or love.
I don't know that much, but I have my whole life to experience it.
In my opinion, love should include friendship.
Relationship Troubles Please Help!?!?
My Boyfriend and I are on a break for mistakes I made, He broke up with me once before because I did it.
I guess it's because I would get mad when he went to go do things, and get mad when he talked to other girls, and the fact that he thought I didn't trust him. I kept making the same mistake.
Since he has gone away for medical reasons, I haven't really be able to talk to him, because he been gone a lot, and in a lot of pain.
But I still love him, and have feelings for him, I have no clue how he feels, but I do want to be with him.
We've been on a break for about 26 days, I texted him awhile ago and asked if this break could be over, he said he wasn't sure, and we'll talk about when he's in better shape.
But SINCE hes been gone he hasn't been texting me back, but ignoring me.
I miss him a lot. And I know I messed up and I do need to change. If I loved him then I could do it.
Q. What do you think hes feeling?
Q. What should I do?
I just don't know whats going to happen, I care about him so much.
He's wondering if he wants to get back together with you. He doesn't think you're going to change, and if that's the case, then he doesn't even want to give it another shot. I get jealous whenever my boyfriend talks to other girls or decides to do something else rather than be with me. The thing is, I don't make a big deal out of it. We're human. We're supposed to be insanely jealous when we're in love. Whether you like it or not, you need to let it go. Don't get pissed at him for having a life. Don't be pissed at him because you're not his life, so to speak. It's okay to feel the way you feel, but that doesn't mean you should make a big deal out of it. I'm sure he knows how you feel, so you don't need to tell him continuously. Let him have a social life. The only time you are justified in getting mad at him is if he's fooling around with someone else. Right now, just leave him alone. If you talk to him, the first thing you need to tell him is that you only act the way you do because you're human. But, he also needs to know that you're going to chill out. You HAVE to chill out if you want your relationship to work. Then again, he may not be talking to you because of his medical problems. If he's in pain, the last thing he's going to want to do is get up and call you and deal with the stress of figuring out a relationship. He's trying to tackle one problem at a time, and right now, his health comes first. Good Luck! :)
Just give the guy some time to think about things. As you said he is away because of medical problems. I know that he is probably more along the lines of thinking about his health right now. and maybe with him not texting you for awhile, maybe that is a sign that he might have moved on but doesn't know how to tell you. Just , from someone that has been there, just give it a little more time. 26 days may seem like a lot but it is really not. Just be patient. If he truly loves you then he will call / contact you.
I guess it's because I would get mad when he went to go do things, and get mad when he talked to other girls, and the fact that he thought I didn't trust him. I kept making the same mistake.
Since he has gone away for medical reasons, I haven't really be able to talk to him, because he been gone a lot, and in a lot of pain.
But I still love him, and have feelings for him, I have no clue how he feels, but I do want to be with him.
We've been on a break for about 26 days, I texted him awhile ago and asked if this break could be over, he said he wasn't sure, and we'll talk about when he's in better shape.
But SINCE hes been gone he hasn't been texting me back, but ignoring me.
I miss him a lot. And I know I messed up and I do need to change. If I loved him then I could do it.
Q. What do you think hes feeling?
Q. What should I do?
I just don't know whats going to happen, I care about him so much.
He's wondering if he wants to get back together with you. He doesn't think you're going to change, and if that's the case, then he doesn't even want to give it another shot. I get jealous whenever my boyfriend talks to other girls or decides to do something else rather than be with me. The thing is, I don't make a big deal out of it. We're human. We're supposed to be insanely jealous when we're in love. Whether you like it or not, you need to let it go. Don't get pissed at him for having a life. Don't be pissed at him because you're not his life, so to speak. It's okay to feel the way you feel, but that doesn't mean you should make a big deal out of it. I'm sure he knows how you feel, so you don't need to tell him continuously. Let him have a social life. The only time you are justified in getting mad at him is if he's fooling around with someone else. Right now, just leave him alone. If you talk to him, the first thing you need to tell him is that you only act the way you do because you're human. But, he also needs to know that you're going to chill out. You HAVE to chill out if you want your relationship to work. Then again, he may not be talking to you because of his medical problems. If he's in pain, the last thing he's going to want to do is get up and call you and deal with the stress of figuring out a relationship. He's trying to tackle one problem at a time, and right now, his health comes first. Good Luck! :)
Just give the guy some time to think about things. As you said he is away because of medical problems. I know that he is probably more along the lines of thinking about his health right now. and maybe with him not texting you for awhile, maybe that is a sign that he might have moved on but doesn't know how to tell you. Just , from someone that has been there, just give it a little more time. 26 days may seem like a lot but it is really not. Just be patient. If he truly loves you then he will call / contact you.
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