Cheating? and how to cure a creeper?

So I have to post this because I don't know what to do and it's a lot to keep locked up:





I'm really close to my brother's fiance and she just told me that so found the chat log on his computer (by accident) of him talking to several girls over spring break. They weren't girls he knew, just webcam picks and chats from sex related sites. She had told him before that she considers this cheating but she was most bothered by his language (which was very creeper-esque) and the fact that he was really having conversations with these girls.





The thing is, she loves him because he's not that kind of guy, he's actually really a sweetheart who is respectful of women. I just don't know what to tell her, I'm used to her coming to me for advice, but I just don't know what to say....





does anyone have any advice? or at least how to cure a second-life-creeper?



Key, the first thing to realize is that you are using denial to justify his actions. You say he loves him because he is not that kind of guy. I got bad news for you...he IS that kind of guy or she would not have found those chat logs to begin with! He is probably just a better BSer/masker than you are giving him credit for. Even psychotic serial killers can pretend to be normal and likable for short periods of time. Why does it seem unreasonable to assume a normal person could not pull it off?





I think your view of this situation is clouded and non-objective for two reasons. First, you are too close to the fianc. Second, you are too close to your brother. You don't want either of them to get hurt and you don't want to see either of them suffer.





Your friend and his fianc need to make some serious choices about their values BEFORE getting married. To ignore this like it never happened or to minimize it like it is no big deal will be a mistake.




men are all disgusting there might be very few who aren't but if he is not actually sticking his pickle into any ones tuna salad then by all means let him do him. At-least he is not stooping to the level most men do and have sex with other people.




You call a guy who talks to high school girls about porn sites a sweetheart? Girl, you got a lot to learn, first off she has every right to know what's going on. It's going to eat you alive (not literally) because you're keeping information that your brother's fiance suspicions are true.





You need to show her the chat logs he's been keeping, again and it'll lose your brother's respect and trust. She knows, you know and it's time for her to let him go and let him do his own thing. One day he'll realize what he's doing is wrong. There's no cure him from his devious ways, because it's under his choice whether or not he'll want to stop.