How does a married guy break up with a secret, married Emotional Friend because he

I've never had full-on sex with the EF, so please no judgment.



Hmmm, that is a tough question...The thing of it is, its an EF...so, although ethically some may say its an affair none the less, some may perceive it as not an affair...If your truly concerned about her "emotions", the best way is to slowly back away...gradually so to speak so that she can kinda see the divide occuring yet its not a cold turkey feeling...eventually you just flat out stop all contact with her. EF's are tricky...Emotions run deeply, and your really cannot expect to be able to break things off and NOT hurt her, either way, your going to crush her...just being honest, not judgmental...BUT, you have to do what you have to do...There are no hard fast rules on this kind of thing...Sometimes people come into our lives for a time or a season, and then for whatever reason they are not there any longer. We all move forward and beyond. Its just the cycle of life. Hope it helps. Take care.




If you want to cut the ties with her completely, then it might be best to be as honest as you can with her. You could soften it a little by telling her your work and family life are consuming more of your time, especially if you want to keep her as a friend, but just cut back on some of the time together. I don't know what kind of person she is as to whether or not you should tell her you feel you're wanting too much from the relationship and you're afraid where it might lead. That might not work, as she may welcome the idea.




Why would a married guy be worried about breaking up with one emotional friend because he prefers another?





Not judging--just really want to know what you're worried about? That she might tell your wife of other EF? She cant seriously believe you two are a true item, and if she does---you havent been 'honest' with her.


Affairs of the heart are just miserable and why would you do that if you weren't having sex. Gee whiz, that's too much work, pal!




Avoid the grief, introduce her to someone new to take your place. Tell her you have to go to Iraq, or China, or your new EF's place. Tell her you've decided to become a raging drunk, a drug addict, a porn star (oops, better not use that one), or enter the priesthood.





Tell your EF you have ED and it requires medical treatment in Egypt.





or you could just be honest and say good bye




Honesty is the best policy, you'll always be respected for it!!!




just cut her off and move on,, there is nothing wrong with moving on


tell her that it is you not her




don't break up with her, just cheat on her.




Can't you make it "bleed it to death" ??





I mean lower your level of attention until she gets it?




gentle ha do like some guys i know the dissapearing act, like run away,,